my daughter just loves animals and is not at all afraid of them. Returning it back will break her heart. Also we have spent a lot of money for buying it and for its medicines/vaccines/etc.
Any suggestions to make my wife accept the puppy?
2007-01-17 20:51:53 · 18 answers · asked by mg 1 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I'm wondering how you got your wife to agree in the first place.
The *senior dogs projects website* has a lot of info that can help you. More before you got the dog..though.
It's hard to answer when you don't say what kind of dog it is, what the problems are...and a million other things.
If you don't work it out soon...the dog has a better chance of getting a good home now..rather than later. Especially if you got it from a good breeder. A good breeder will take them back.
I'm doubting it came from a shelter...as most would get the fact that your wife probably didn't want the dog in the first place..and wouldn't let you adopt one if everyone wasn't on board.
Or did you just buy one and hope your wife would accept it cause your daughter wanted it?
All sound like disaster scenarios ....
That's the reason I only dated date guys who wanted dogs in their lives..I knew I did....
It sucks..but it sounds like a bad situation.....
Depends on how your marriage is...and which you want worse...
your wife or the dog?
I'm not being a smart ***...but I don't see an easy solution here...it is not about the dog...
it is about how well you know your wife, and how you guys do things.
Good luck.
2007-01-17 21:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by KarenS 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Get rid of the wife! Seriously, is she just not a dog lover? If not, then, it may be in the best interest of the puppy to go to someone who will love it. I do believe that children should have pets and that it would be cruel to your daughter to rip the puppy away from her. Most breeders will accept the puppy back within 2 days. You will just have to "eat" the money you have spent. If it is just the puppy's behavior and need for training, then get some help with that, but don't let her mistreat the puppy. You need to tell us more about the puppy and about your wife...to really help you.
2007-01-17 21:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by Doctor Doris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hii MG, well i more or less had a similar problem but then i got the puppy only after my wife was convinced that it is for our daughters happiness. Now our dobberman is 5 months old and there are times when even my wife pets him and also takes him out for a walk ( surprising for a person when she does not like dogs).
Try talking to your wife and also see that you house train the pup so that it does not relieve itself inside the house. I am sure that she would atart accepting the dogs presence in the house and may be few months down the line get attached to the pet.
Good luck.
2007-01-17 21:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sudden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask you wife exactly the reason for why she does not like the puppy. It may be a problem with her and not the puppy. Puppies take a lot of getting used to if you ha vent had one around before it in most cases they are just hard work. But tell her it wont be forever and i am sure that puppy will win her heart over eventually. I would get your puppy involved in puppy school or obedience training and take mum along as well it may help her to bond with the puppy and help your pup to be well balanced in its nature
Good luck and happy birthday to your daughter
2007-01-17 21:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I am in Australia and not the US, I would definitely say you would have legal rights to stop your ex wife from gallovanting all over the country side with your daughter. Firstly do you have any court documentation referring to visitation/custody of your daughter? If not you will need to go to court and put the forms in stating that you have regular contact with your daughter beit once a fortnight or once a week and that your ex cannot move more than an hours distance away from where you reside. Also look at adding that you have a say in the day to day care, welfare of the child. If yes you do have papers, you will need to have the court papers ammended to read the above. It might cost you a few dollars but it is better to have a lawyer do it then yourself and risk having filled something in incorrectly and lose your rights altogether over a simple error. When the papers are in place it will put a stop to her dragging your daughter on her fiasco. Once the documentation is in place, if she faulters on your visitation she can be in serious trouble as it was lodged and granted by the law. A simple phone call to the police would result in them tracking your ex down and dragging your ex and daughter back to your home town. Next time the ex gets smug and points out its not Russia and she can move if she so desires. You can point out gees her new man must really love her if he expects her to drop everything and run and uproot her and her daughters life and drag her away from her family and friends to please him. Hopefully might plant the seed of doubt in her stupid head ;) lol Good Luck
2016-03-29 02:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, only suggestion I can up with is to care for the puppy between yourself and your daughter. This way, from a mother's point of view, your wife will no longer view the puppy as an extra child which has to be washed, fed, exercised, entertained, groomed, clip its nails and extra ear/nose/eye hair. That way she will be free to either enjoy the puppy or avoid him/her as she sees fit. Do you remember what it was like to bring your first child home? Of course you do, how could you forget !!! It totally turns your life upside down and you can't imagine how you ever used to spend your time pre-baby. To your wife, this situation with the puppy is as if she has brought home a new baby! So, double her work!!!
Hope I helped a bit.
Cheers
2007-01-17 21:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Minx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why your wife hate the animal. Try to find out the reason. All young ones, be it human or animal puppy, they are cute and generally all will like them. Train and teach the puppy little tricks that will amuse your wife. Train the decipline to the puppy as to how to greet your wife while coming back from shopping, etc., Sooner or later I bet she will start liking the puppy. All the best.
2007-01-17 21:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should try enrolling in puppy kindergarten and training your puppy, this might help. I just got a puppy two weeks ago and I was ready to kill her prior to working with a trainer who helped teach me how to work with my dog in a way the dog understands.
2007-01-20 18:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by kar29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Puppies can be hard to deal with at first, but as it gets older it will get easier. And most places won't take it back anyway...so you just have to keep it.
2007-01-17 21:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by xoxo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dogs r like chidren .They need same care & attention as children need. if u can brought up ur child effectively i m sure u can become a successful pet master. all u need to develop the habits from the very begining. go for it they r wonderful creature the god has ever made. i m sure u will not repent for it.
2007-01-17 21:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by ashish s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋