I have just found out that my boyfriend is still with his ex ( well i suppose its not he's ex if he is still with her) I knew he was with some one when I first met him and I told him I would not have a relationship with someone elses man and so I would not have anything to do with him, 3 months later he convinced me that they were splitup and that he hadn't seen her for 3 weeks. Everything was going fine and I didn't supsect a thing but this week I have found out that he is still with her. but I have feelings for him now and its hard to walk away, he says just give him some time to break it her and that he wants to be with me........please help... I cant stop crying.
2007-01-17 20:49:47 · 18 answers · asked by sugarcoatedhoneylips 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You told him you would not be a participant in his cheating schemes, so he lied to you to get you into bed against your moral values. Now you've found out the truth, and you're finding it hard to walk away? Again, he is telling you what you want to hear (that he'll break up with his girlfriend for you), but what makes you think he is not lying again? And besides, even if he broke up with her for you, how long do you think it would be before he cheated on you with the next sucker? He did with you, didn't he?
2007-01-17 20:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why are u crying for him? You shld be glad that u found out and be happy. My advise is leave him, for him to lie to u at the begining means he will keep lying to u till the end. Nothing is hard, it's just whether u wanna walk away or not. Be strong, break off with him and get on with ur life...who knows someday u might get someone much better. Life is full of risk..be strong and go thru it. Never give him a 2nd chance cos from what u said, if u did not find out, he might still playing u like a fool.
2007-01-17 20:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by DooGie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl!Cheer up!
I know it is really hard to walk away from someone you have feelings for, even if they have been treating you really bad.
The fact that he lied to you and cheated does not just void all the feelings..........unfortunately. However, I have to say you are probably better off without him.
Honestly, he is not trustworthy.He wants his cake and eat it too!You have already made it clear once, that you do not want to SHARE a bf..........and he tricked you into doing that..........that is just beyond dishonest!Do not believe a word he says.............he will not break up with his gf, he will just carry on lying to both of you.........and even if he does.......how long do you think it will take for him to do the same to you?
Please find the strength to walk away........he's not worth your tears or your love!However hard it can be, it is the right thing to do.
I am sorry you have to go through this though, I kinda have been there and know what it is like.
Feel free to email me for an advice, or if you just want someone to talk to.........xxxx
2007-01-17 21:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by NG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is possible that he did leave her for a while and that he has somehow drifted back to her. He wants time to break up, though? Do you know what I think the problem is? I don't think he is a liar and a cheat as most people suggest on here, but I do think that he is a very weak man who is not in control of his own life. You may feel you could help him by making him feel strong but to be quite honest, I wouldn't bother. It is early in the relationship and although you say you have feelings for him, I think you should recognise that he is not the man for you. Please do not cry over this. Let him be the one to shed the tears for not being man enought to take control of his own destiny.
2007-01-17 21:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we have all fell for that line at some time in our lives. I know that it is hard to walk away but you have to do it. He will never break up with her and if he does will you ever be able to trust him??? It will hurt but you will get over it. Get away for a day or too you never know you could meet the man of your dreams and end up wondering what all the fuss was about. Just think how his girlfriend would feel if she found out. I always think to myself "don't do to others what you would not like done to yourself" Walk away you will feel better for it in the long run. Listen to one who has been there done that and got the big maternity t-shirt to prove it. Chin up it will all work out.
2007-01-17 21:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard this is because it happened to me ( a long time ago)
It's all very well these people telling you to walk away. dump him etc. But It's so hard isn't it? he's reeled you into his life and you have fallen for him and of course you want to forgive him and hope he means what he says.
It is so difficult to know what to do because you did the right thing to begin with and now you are finding yourself in a situation where you are unwittingly 'the other woman' through no fault of your own.
If you cannot bring yourself to end it, how about a bit of 'sisterhood' manipulation here. What about getting one of your friends to 'innocently' spill the beans to the other girl ( she doesn't have to mention names , just that she has seen him out with another girl) then with any luck she will dump him leaving him single.... and even better, by then you may feel strong enough to dump him yourself!!!
Good luck, I really hope it works out for you
2007-01-17 21:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does not deserve you - you will regret the tears once it hits you that he took advantage of you. Lots of guys out there. I will never understand why woman think there is only one man for them and he's taken! Take a vacation to Alaska! The ratio of men to woman is 9:1
2007-01-17 20:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i went out with someone once and found out he was with someone else, and i was hurt and i did not really think enough of myself then otherwise i would not of put up with it, you need to value yoursef more as you are precious, women often look for security in a man and can get hurt, read joyce meyers the confidant woman www.joycemeyer.org, you will end up angry and bitter if you stay with him your happiness is important.
2007-01-17 21:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by denise g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have respect for yourself. I would never ever treat someone so badly and I will NEVER let someone treat me the same way.
He is using you and you deserve MUCH MUCH better. Move on and you will be better off. Stay with him and you will regret it.
Wish you all the best
Paul
2007-01-17 20:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by bms_paul 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has been really unfair to you - do you want to be with someone who lies? I know it is really hard, but you should seriously think about ending it - if he can lie about this, then who knows what he can lie about in the future.....
You have to believe in yourself and realise that you don't deserve to be treated like this
2007-01-17 20:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lupee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋