I and my boyfrend are head over heels in love with eachother.Now-a-days he keeps on insisting meto have sex with him.I dont want to go so far at this moment but I end up annoying him.How to convince him?Its a serious problem, so pls answer wit compassion.....Waiting for help!
2007-01-17 20:45:48 · 22 answers · asked by moon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know how old you are but that is a very important part of the information. If you are not ready then you are not ready. If he truely loves you for who you are he will listen to how you are feeling. Sex is not something to take lightly as you obviously know. Don't give in!!!! Stay strong!!!! I know what falling in love is like it is wonderful and finding someone you love is always a wonderful experience. I also know that there is not only one person out there that you could make a successful marriage with. How you deal with this issue will make a huge difference to the rest of you life. Love each other enjoy the process of falling in love you don't need to have sex for that to happen and any successful relationship takes compassion and the ability to understand how that person you love is feeling. If he is getting annoyed it is because he is trying to manipulate you. Stay STRONG!!
2007-01-17 20:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by bedfordbuschick 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should never be pressurised by your partner into having sex, You should have a word with your partner and tell him to stop putting pressure on you to sleep with him and if he does not listen or keeps piling on the pressure he may not be the man for you. Don't think you are annoying him because your saying no at the moment, If you are not ready for your relationship to move up a gear tell him so as you don't want to do something you are not comfortable with just to keep him happy. Being in a relationship is all about communication, love and respect for each other. If your boyfriend loves you he should respect your decision and leave it at that for the moment. Hope this helps
2007-01-17 20:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by its_beautiful_me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl if he can't wait then he isn't head over heels in love with you. Remeber patience is a virtue and if you're not ready then you're not ready. Do what you feel is right and not what he wants you to do. I am not putting him down or anything but if he really loves you then he'll wait. If for some reason you decide to do it then just make sure it is for the right reasons like you both want to and not just him. A little advice if you do wait until your married or at least commfortable then it will be well worth the wait.
2007-01-25 20:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by angleyez_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you shouldn't be pressured into doing something that you don't want to do but if you two are so head over heels in love then you need to take his wishes into consideration also. Maybe you could try petting or even oral sex you don't have to go all the way to keep him happy and it could stop him from asking constantly about having sex with you. Or you could just do nothing and he'll eventually find someone else that will give him what he wants.
2007-01-25 20:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is he should respect the fact that you are not ready and should rather not insist because it results into petty fight issues.. Tell him that you are not ready to do it yet and make it clear that it's not because you don't love him.. but tell him that you just don't feel ready and you are hoping that he can wait.. if he can't... then what do you think? how would you feel if you discover that having sex with him is the only way to make him stay? do you think you can go? or not?
but keep this in mind: do not sacrifice your values for a relationship
2007-01-17 20:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by terra 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi Moon, actually I have the same problem with you right now. But I was try to think clearly. Now, I know, if man loves woman, he would never insist that woman to do something she doesnt like.
So I choose to talk to him, not to insist me, if he loves me. He should understand what is on my mind and respect each other.
Also I said that I really appreciate a man who loves woman without sex before married.
I believe you could do the same thing like I do, persuate him without making him mad.
Good luck, moon. I will pray for you.
2007-01-17 20:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by augustinetina2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to anyone else. You are doing the right thing. Love has nothing to do with sex. When he truly loves you he will be willing to wait. Express to him that insisting on you having sex is violating your confidence and interfering in the natural growth of your relationship together.
The following is a definition of love:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
2007-01-18 04:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear,
thanks so much.
I can see your concern.
May be this is your first love and indeed you want to keep him
but also you feel not ready to loose your treasure (your sex)
And let me encourage my dear.True love waits.
If the guy can't wait let me assure you that he does not love you but he is lusting after you.
I am a guy I know what that is.Man will lust after a lady and when she gives in to sex they started pulling out and leave you with the consequences of having sex when you did not like it.
Let me tell you when you will meet the right man, this is what he will tell you
"I love you so much and can't touch you till you are mine officially"
If the guy wants your sex, let him marry you.and if you tell him that you will see that he will become angry, sign that he does not love you but he lusts after you.
That's the truth
if you need more, get in touch with me
prince-of-music@hotmail.com
2007-01-17 21:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Prince 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is your body and your choice. Don't let ANYONE pressure or bully you into sex if you are not ready. Sex is an extremely powerful drive, and has tremendous emotional power, especially for women. Young men have very powerful sexual drives, and they are so driven, they are often only thinking of themselves.
Love includes respect, and he should respect your feelings. He can masturbate to deal with his sexual urges, so don't feel sorry for him. Also, guys lie to get sex. They also often dump a woman after they have manipulated her to have sex with them.
When YOU are ready, be sure to be responsible about protecting yourself from sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.
His annoyance with you is a tactic to manipulate you into doing what he wants. Men who care about their partners do not use emotional blackmail to get what they want.
2007-01-25 18:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by curious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is trying to force / talk you into something that he knows you don't want, he does not love you. All he is interested in is himself and his own satisfaction. Tell him that you will not have sex with him in the foreseeable future, and any further attempts by him to change your mind will result in your ending the relationship. Then follow through.
2007-01-17 20:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋