2007-01-17 20:16:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My time period between children is 3 years to 3 years six months. That time frame came about because it was about that time when they no longer needed that total Mommy attention (i.e., I can do this, I can do that). My girls were and still are very independent. At the three year mark they were also able to help me with the new baby when it came home (I miss my babies). And as I think back now, there was not much sibling rivalry.
2007-01-17 20:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 kids. The first 2 are 22 months apart and that was hard - the second 2 are 3 years apart and that is perfect. Making them 4 years apart might get you use to them being grown up and independant and then you won't want to start again with babies and diapers. I found 3 to be perfect and if I had to wait till 4 years I probably would not have had the third.
2007-01-19 22:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kim Di 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not closer than 2 years. That gives the mothers body time to rejuvenate and the children shouldn't be in diapers at the same time. It might also depend on how many you are thinking of having and how old you are when you start your family. I wouldn't want to be in my mid fifties and still have teenaged kids in the house.
Most of the people I know say that 2 1/2 - 3 years apart is quite a good spacing....
2007-01-18 05:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by mindbender - seeker of truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no hard and fast rule. Different children have different needs. There are children that are better off with siblings close to their age (who can also become their friends) and there are some who are better off with a gap of at least 3 years. You will really never know it until they are there.
The other thing to consider is the health of the mother. If they have delicate pregnancies, then the should consider spacing their pregnancies. Others, of course, have no problems and can give birth every year.
2007-01-18 04:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by Erize Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always wanted my kids 2 years apart so they'd be friends and I could get the diapers over at the same time. But my daughters are 4 1/2 years apart and they had a happy child hood together.
2007-01-18 05:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As close together as possible. THink of the years of formula and diapers spacing 2 to 3 years apart.
Kids get along better closer to gether. Not as much age difference means more in common.
2007-01-18 04:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this will help~ I have 6 kids: 11, two 9, 8, and two 4. Two years apart was plenty for me, but having two 1 year olds and a new born was a bit much!
2007-01-18 13:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by JeffHardy4Eva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there was an 8 year gap from the point of my first girls birth to my new girls birth. I find this was a perfect time for a new child as daycare costs would be dramatically cut down, as well we felt that the addition to the family would help bring new responsibilities to our older one at an age when she will be adapting more to change. But of course, "to one's own", any age gap is fine depending on the situation.
2007-01-18 08:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think any gap can work well, and it does depend on the sex of the children. My elder sis is two years older than me and we are best friends in the whole world!!! But it may not have been that way if she or I was a boy, who knows :)
2007-01-18 04:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for me i did 2-3 years because i wanted my kids to feel like they had a brother or sister my mom had me and my oldest brother 2 yrs apart but because he stayed in jail it didnt feel like i had a big brother then 10 yrs latter here comes my lil brother i was a new teen (lol) then 18 yrs latter here comes my lil sister who is younger than my oldest son no way they were like lil cusins to me but i love them but it was hardly anything in common no fights,bad doing together,telling on one another,no tag team on street ball, no hobbies what so ever but fashion lol with my kids i got to experince them get in sports on the same team family fights and no im not violent we have family nights were we sit up and talk about remember when and thats when you get to dig things out like did i punish the right kid they have some of the same friends when they look at my 2 younger sibilings they say what was granny thinkning when she had them? lol you allow them to have alot of memories growing up but the only thing about having stair step kids is you have to be able to have individual quality time its very important i love all 5 of my boys ages 17,15,14, and twins are 12 hopefully when the oldest one moves out the rest will follow lol
2007-01-18 04:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋