i know this sounds pretty stupid but it seems like all are fights start because somebody gets hurt when were messin around she thinks nailing me in the balls is hilarious i get mad and she says i can never have any fun. I have confronted her and told her i do not find it funny please stop but she just continues. I Don't want to get really upset and whale her cause there are times i get hit in the nuts or slapped in the face and my initial reaction is to smack her real hard or pinch her in the frikken nipples. HELP HOW CAN I MAKE THIS stop before someone gets seriously hurt.
2007-01-17 20:00:04 · 9 answers · asked by bs99dan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she sounds like she wants to play with you :P have you tried "play fighting" with her back?
2007-01-17 20:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Introduce her to this guy?http://7d.blogs.com/mistress/2007/01/kick_start.html
Seriously, though...it doesn't sound like you're getting through to her, so if you don't think that she's doing this specifically to get rid of you...
1) Restrain her (assuming you can) when it happens, until she calms down, and either way, keep telling her "you can't do that if you want me to stay with you." If she doesn't stop, at some point you'll have to follow through (because you wouldn't be posting about it here if you were happy living with the abuse).
2) I assume you've already tried the "double standard" argument: asking her whether she'd like it if you hit her? No, if she had any sense, she'd run away fast. Ask her why she thinks your response should be any different? (This may give you some insight into WHY she's doing this, which should help you deal with it.)
3) You're going to have to help her grow up. Look for Libertarian sources on non-aggression or "non-initiation of force," such as:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-aggression_principle
When I was much, much younger, I would "playfully" hit my boyfriend in the chest or arm or leg. I didn't think I was causing any real pain, but I completely stopped doing it once I understood the Libertarian philosophy, because I realized violence wasn't funny or cute, ever--it just leads to more violence. She needs to experience that same shift in consciousness. She's got to realize it's just WRONG, just like you hitting her would be wrong.
Whatever you do, don't hit her back. If that's what she's trying to provoke, she's got big issues--get her to a shrink, still don't hit her back. Just LEAVE if she doesn't stop, and make sure she knows why you're leaving (maybe you can save her next guy some pain).
2007-01-17 21:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by infojunkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women have a problem understanding exactly how bad it hurts to get hit in the nuts. I see this commonly amongst younger women and teens. She doesn't know that gut wrenching pain that you get is so severe. The best advice I can give you is to set her down and explain to her exactly what it does to you when she does it. Explain to her that the pain is so excruciating that you can no longer bear to have her do it. Also let her know that you can't help the fact that it is beginning to effect your relationship and it is hard to play with her when she hurts you. Explain to her that when she puts you in such pain it takes all of the fun out of it and it is not your fault. If it comes down to it, as childish as this sounds, tell her that everytime she hits you there that you are going to hit/sqeeze her breasts. Women are very sensitive to this and i'm sure she will get the hint.
2007-01-17 20:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Williams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your gf just wants to have some fun and finds you a bit boring or serious so she hits you to knock you off guard. Before you have sex, unwind a little and stop being so stressed around her. Pinch her back, slap her, turn her around and give it to her in the ****. You'll both find love making that much more fun... It's okay to be agressive before and during sex. are'nt you there to hear her moarn?
Go for it and tell us how it went!
2007-01-17 20:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by saddam 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah there are women who can be abusive and not know the damage they are causing or they might might be enjoying it so tell her she has turned you into a hard core sadist and have violent sex with her and see if she would like that! (And tell her you would really make it hurt! You need to scare her) OR tell her you gonna dump her if she continues..... and see if she sees the seriousness of that! I hope she gets the message! Good luck!
2007-01-17 20:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her what she wants...slap the b***h! And go find a better girlfriend. Your current gf is sick. What kind of person gets off of violence?
2007-01-17 20:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by I ♥ 2 ♥ U BABY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds to childish to be in a relationship, if she makes you mad enough to hit her i think you need to end it...
2007-01-17 20:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by hockeygurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
buy some bondage gear and try the bd/sm thing.
2007-01-17 20:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hit her in the snatch and show her it really does hurt.
2007-01-17 20:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by icavision1 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋