Okay, so I Married my daughters father after finding out that we were going to have a baby. My family put on a wonderful wedding for us....but he and I didn't work out (It all came down to the fact that he was cheating on me and he didn't divorce his first wife even before he married me so I left him) Well, I have moved on to a better life and I have a new beau. We are talking about Marriage possible in Ocotober of 2008. I love the wedding gown I picked out when I married previously. It fits wonderfully, I have all the accessories, and I look damn gorgeous in it!!! I was wondering if it would be proper to use it again. I really love the dress I have and I really don't want to buy another one. What is the general opinion on this??
2007-01-17 19:47:13 · 14 answers · asked by Easter Bunny 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Absolutely wear the gown! In this case all that matters is you feel comfortable wearing it.
Gowns are very expensive and you would not have selected this one to begin with if you were not very pleased with it.
If you have friends or family who have seen the gown and have the poor taste to suggest wearing it is inappropriate, simply let them know in a firm and brief manner how confident and excited you are about wearing it. Be clear the topic is not up for debate!
Congratulations to you!
P.S. I have worked in couture bridal salon for over five years. I believe that unless a decision is truly insensitive or offensive to others, a bride should always do what feels right for her. It is your wedding, after all!
2007-01-18 04:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by sj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the only valid reason for not wearing the dress again would be if it made you, and only you, uncomfortable because of the circumstances. If you love it, it fits, and doesn't bother you, go for it! Why spend $1,000 or more on a new dress? Realistically it's just a dress and it's meaning is all mental. Some people would associate the dress with a failed marriage and therefore not want to wear it again - others, like you, are able to look toward the future and not associate it with that, but rather the fact that it's a gorgeous dress that you love, and that's great!
2007-01-17 19:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Grace1228 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My cousin tried on a dress in store, it was $3000, she then found the same dress being made by someone on eBay. Including shipping from China it cost her $189 (We're Australian), when it arrived she admitted the detail and quality was no where near that of in store, and some beading needed to be replaced, but her mothers a dressmaker and could easily fix it. Another girl I know bought one online, the back didn't do up correctly so she took it to a seamstress who replaced the zip with a beautiful tie up ribbon-back. Lovely. It's all in the chance you take! Good luck :)
2016-05-24 02:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Susan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personaly wouldn't wear the dress again because I'd be starting a new life, with someone new, and I wouldn't want the memories of thinking I'm now marrying the man I love, the man I'm going to be spending the rest of my life with, in the same dress as I married my first husband that turned out to be well, (you know), and I just think since you're starting a new life, you should have a new dress to help you start that new life.
2007-01-17 20:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by xxjune242006xx 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're happy with it go for it. It's stupid to waste money on another and then still not like it as much as the first. I think it's quite practical and sensible. After all it wasn't because of the dress the first marriage didn't work out. It was because of the groom, and you've got a new one of those.
2007-01-17 20:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the only one who might have a right to be put off by you wearing the same gown the second time around, is your intended. if they don't care about you wearing the same gown, then wear it. if they would rather you wore a different gown, then i think you should take their feeling into consideration and look for another dress. as for anyone else, fluff them, they have no say in what you do or wear, tell them to keep their opinion to themselves,(nicely of course)
2007-01-17 23:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If as you say your first husband was still married when he married you then technically you were never married. Therefore if I were you I'd recycle the dress and wear it again. Weddings are expensive enough as it is without adding to it.
Try changing the flowers and accesories so that it looks different!
2007-01-17 19:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by thecat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would use it if you love it that much.....however i would alter it in some way to make it a "different" dress.....maybe add some new or different beading detail, sequins, ribbons, lace...whatever.....some minor alterations like that should cost very little-you'd still have the great fitting gown, with the style you love, but it'll be a bit different and special for the new wedding
2007-01-18 02:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wear the dress again.. If you looked hot for the ex why not for your true love.(lol) Then instead of spending money on a new dress put it towards a romantic honeymoon.
2007-01-17 19:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a second wedding, you would not be wearing a wedding gown. Just nice dress.
2007-01-17 23:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋