is hated soooo much from your family and marriyng her would destroy everything between you and your family?
2007-01-17 19:43:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mate, I'm in the same sort of spot, but I'm in her position, her family hate me. I can't tell you what to do here, but make sure you tell her everything that's going through her mind, or she will be a wreck wondering if you'll suddenly break it off. Keep communication open, and if you can, I would suggest a lunch with your core family, you and her, sit with her and deal with all of this, hopefully airing out all concerns.
Good luck, but love is hard to find, hold on if it is true, and your family must come around if they love you.
2007-01-18 00:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try showing for family that you are happy with the girl. They should not want to take away your happiness because they are your family. And the girl must also take efforts to get the love or at least trust of your family. Nothing is better than getting married with your family's blessing. God bless you.
2007-01-17 19:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously considered the pros and cons of the relationship. What are the good and bad things about your relationship? Make a list but do not include the obvious con of destroying your family, leave that off. If the pros (good) outweigh the cons (bad), then marry her.
2007-01-17 19:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by pjames302 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I truly believed she was what I needed and wanted in a wife I would marry her. My family would come around given time when they were able to see how happy we are with one another. Why would your family want to see you forsake your own happiness? Besides all of that its my concern who I choose to take as my wife and spend the rest of my life with no theirs. I would listen and take their advice into consideration but in the end its you who lives your own life not them. There is a big difference between listening to their advice and letting them run my life for me. If its love and if its true then only you can decide if she is right for you, not them. This happened to me but it was the other way around. Its an awful position to place someone in, making them feel they have to choose between a person they love deeply and the family they love and cherish. You have to choose whether or not she is worth fighting for, and whether or not you truly believe that the two of you can lean on one another long enough to survive the battle. In my case I have to believe she made the right choice for herself and she followed her heart as best she could. I have to believe that she did what she felt was best at the time. I also know she was the love of my life and I lost her only because of her families dislike of me. There is another part that feels that maybe she didn't think I was worth the trouble and stress involved to fight for me. I don't believe that to be true but if it is than maybe she never truly loved me as a wife should love her husband. Either way I believe in her, and that she knows what is best for her in the long run. Good luck to you both, I will keep you in prayer.
-NmD!
2007-01-17 19:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a choice. Be a man and if you love her you will definitely fight for her till death do you part. She is not getting married to your family if she accept the fact that they hate her and she is willing to fight the battle with you then go for it and it really make life easier for both of you.
2007-01-17 19:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by auntsid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family members are like pets if the dog or cat doesn't like somebody there is usually a good reason. Give it a little more time and see for yourself.
2007-01-17 20:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry the girl if you marrying her for the right reasons. because she is going to become your new family, so it better be the right choice...and from my experience, when you do things for the right reasons, it always works out.
p.s: true love is hard to find, and even harder to keep, but its all worth it:)
2007-01-17 20:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on stay with her for one or two years but do not marry her.for one reason,your pearent may change their view.for anther,time will prove your love if it is really worth giving.after one or two years,if you both are turely in love,I believe no one could set a block between you.If your family's love you ,they should love the person who you love.
fighting!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-17 20:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by haimingweng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family can't live your life for you! Love is the key word here if you love her enough, you will do the right thing.......
2007-01-17 19:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will talk it out and make it clear that i am the one who's going to live with her and not them. and if the scenario persists , i will be fighting for her in a way where nobody is hurt. anything is possible
2007-01-17 19:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by Dr.Rajanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋