Should spanking your child be a crime?

Question

I think it should be. If a kid fights in school don't they get in trouble? If an adult hits another adult isn't it assalt? Why is laying a hand on a child any different? I am all for banning spanking, are you?

Many people are saying spanking is the only way to get your point across to your child. Are you content with your child growing up thinking that is the only way to communicate? What if they take that thought process into their marriage and their wife doesn't listen to them? Are you going to be ok with them lashing out at their wife because they didn't listen to them?

Answer 1

No.
It provides a meaningful immediate response to correct behavior that is not negotiable.

The child should never be left with marks, but a red bottom has changed many wayword ways.

If you don't discipline your children, you don't love them.

Answer 2

Of course you should spank. Not all children and situations need it though. What else should you do? If your 3 yr old keeps running away from you and into traffic, no matter how many times you say no and come here. They are out of control, no corners to be put in, they are not listening to you. The risk of this child getting severly hurt is high. This is no the only child you have to keep your eye on. You turn to see another child found a lighter on the ground and is trying to set another kids shirts on fire. I am going to spank that tail. There is nothing else to say or do or is there? How about you ask your 2 yr old to stop tossing a particular thing in the store after a few minutes they throw it again and it connects perfectly with a display of vases approx 90 of them, priced at 24.99. As you are standing in a sea of glass, handing over a few thousand bucks, what are you going to do next? Children are like wild horses. They need to broken in and calmed down on command. No exceptions. By the time they go to school, they should know, what I better do and better not do, right. An adult cannot train another adult, that's why it's assault. If it wasn't, we'd all be slappin cops and coworkers and we'd be getting slapped too. some children need that type of reinforcement. I don't care what the experts say, they have all the time in the world to deal with one child. They go home (not with that child) and eat, sleep and dream up new and yacky ways to let the child rule the parent. Abuse is a different story. If you feel you have to burn your child on the back with the iron, because they can't spell "yard" or you shake the baby stupid, because you want to sleep, then, I suggest the parent get the same punishment. If they are late on a bill, Burn that back! If they miss a day of work, Shake! shake! shake! Time out does work, so does taking things away. After you've done all that, what do you do? Dope them up? Ship them off to boarding school? Kill them and hide the body? Spank that tail! Spare the ROD, Spoil the child. It's biblical!

Answer 3

I think that spanking is a method of punishment that is completely necessary during the upbringing of a child. There is a difference between beating a child and spanking them. In addition spanking should only be used when the parent/adult also plans to sit and speak with the child about what they did wrong and how they can avoid getting in trouble next time.

Answer 4

That's about the most moronic, *** backward, simplistic idea I've ever heard. To equate spanking to assaulting someone? Good God, get real. It seems the more liberal we get with the fabric of our family structure the more superficial, self centered, and diluted our society becomes. There has never been anything wrong with spanking. I was spanked and I do not find the need to strike someone to get my point across. MILLIONS upon MILLIONS of Americans have been spanked for generations and grew up into well adjusted adults. Hate to break it to you but its only been since the new age crap of the last few generations where spanking is always wrong - and other factors- have we started to see the younger generation sliding further and further into delinquency. Try focusing on REAL abusers - you know the ones raping and killing kids - and leave parents to raise their children in the method that has worked for generations.

Answer 5

Let me start out by saying that spanking and beatings are two different things. Most people confuse the two. I am a mother who firmly believes that timeouts are important. They give both the child and the parent time to think. I have over the last 10 years given my daughter a few swats on the butt for things that had been talked over and over and over. Timeouts didn't work and grounding didn't work. This is my true thoughts...I don't want my child to be scared of me and also I don't want my child to think hitting is the answer. So as a rule of thumb it is my last last last recourse. It sucks for both parent and child when a spanking happens. Should it be illegal...heck no....those kids carrying guns and knives to school and killing other kids needed to have their butts spanked... Is it for everybody and every child no. Should it be illegal...no...It should be up to every parent to decide how to raise their children.

What is illegal is beating your children. What a lot of people don't realize is that especially in the black "African American" community in which I belong to, that our ancestors were beaten..sometimes to death. Thus, our grandparents and parents have experienced harsher treatment by way of beatings and other violence. What you teach your children they will in turn teach their children and so on. The cycle is hard to break but is necessary. What I want people to understand is that beatings and spankings are truly two different things. I hope that all parents take the time out to consider what they are doing to themselves and their children. Also, I wish people would stop trying to tell other people how to raise their children. Raise your children right and hope that they will lead by the great example you are setting for them. This type of communication is the key for change.

Answer 6

There are certainly times when spanking is appropriate. And there is a difference between a spanking and beating your child.

I also believe there is a certain age where spanking become inappropriate and unnecessary.

I personally do not spank my three year old, but I have very different circumstances from the average family.

I don't think anyone who can remember being spanked can honestly say that it traumatized them. (And I'm talking about a legitimate spanking, not public humiliation or beating.) Making spanking illegal would be a waste of time and effort.

Answer 7

no not at all.those kids that arnt beat have no manners,no respect, and dont no right from wrong most the time becuase there parents never did anything but say "no" so they never have any real boundaries,and those kids that arnt beat are the criminals in society 80% of the time. thats why back in the 50s 60s 70s and 80s crime was never that huge of a issue because people had stature and chivalry was still alive, then as the years went on people started to feel bad and so on. so thing is hell yes beat your kids..but only for good reasons.

Answer 8

spanking a child in the behind is quite different from an assault on an adult. When children get in trouble in school for fighting, they are not criminally liable. When parents spank their children's behind they don't do it hard enough to hurt them, it's more a way of getting their attention and stopping them in their tracks and making them stop whatever they were doing. It is not a brawl. I think you're referring to a beating. That is already illegal.

Answer 9

Banning spanking will not stop parents from exercising their right and freedom to bring up their children as they see fit. It won't stop parents who abuse this right either.

There is a difference between spanking your child and child abuse. Child abusers will not stop because there is an anit-spanking law - Such a law would only serve to further restrict peoples basic freedom.

I think parents should be better educated on how to raise their children, and there should be more measures in place to prevent child abuse, and harsher penalties.

We don't need our freedom further restricted by a useless law

Answer 10

Wow, I love how all of you who spank justify what is o.k. and what is not: where on the body, positioning of hand, etc... It's pretty disgusting!

I cannot tell you how many times I would have loved to spank my kids. But I resist, punish them in other ways, and I think the results end up just the same.

Most definitely, I can tell you that when my children are adults, I want them to remember me as a loving, warm parent who didn't have to resort to violence to teach them a lesson.

Answer 11

Absolutely not! It is not the government's job to tell us how to discipline our children! And anyone with any sense would know there is a HUGE difference between HITTING your child (ie abuse) and spanking them!

Go ahead and try to stop me! Ban or not, I will continue to spank my child when I see necessary! This is partially what is wrong with the world: not enough disciplinary action!