we have been going out for a year and things have got difficult now she is confused and thinks that she is still in love with her ex even though they broke it off like a year and a half ago all this effort i put into this Relation S-H-I-T does not seem to be paying off but i believe she will grow up one day and find out that it is best that we are together i feel i have lost all sanity with myself for still staying with her after she says she still loves her ex am i stupid or what. what should i do?
2007-01-17 19:28:52 · 11 answers · asked by bs99dan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all , cool it dude. i can perfectly understand your frustration. All that the girl needs is some space. give her that space and she will come up with a solution. but you must be prepared for whatever decision she makes. it shows she's not come over her past relationship. its pretty difficult for a girl. give her the time. you primarily don't feel insecure. after-all , whatever happens happens for good buddy.
2007-01-17 19:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Dr.Rajanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk RUN away. This relationship will go NOWHERE. She's pining because she still wants the other guy. If it's about her wanting what she can't have she's immature. And if you are waiting for her to grow up then she could mature into a totally different person. And trust me. You do NOT want to be there when that happens because you will have invested all of this time and effort in something that no longer exists.
My advice, find someone with their sh-it together already. When you are in a relationship that you don't have to fight to make work its such a better thing.
She's telling you she still loves her ex. So.... send her packing. If someone is telling you she's all about someone else and you are hoping she changes to like you then you are stupid. Dude, it's been a YEAR and she's still drooling over the other guy.
Let her go. And if she ever gets her act together then deal with her. She's broken right now. When she fixes herself THEN deail with her.
2007-01-17 19:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cybrocupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could see how difficult it must be for both of you. Did you talk to her recently about her feelings for the ex? If she still says she still has feelings for the ex then maybe you could ask her why she is staying in the relationship. Maybe it's time to back off from the relationship, some SPACE, for her to analyze her feelings and to think things through.. tell her that you love her but it's hard for you to work out the relationship if she has unsettled past feelings. Everybody wants a real relationship. And I understand why you feel aweful and you can tell her that... calmly. She would understand that there is a need to think things through before it gets even worse.
God bless you!
2007-01-17 19:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not stupid, it's called love. Love makes us do some weird shiznit. It's all up to you and her, whether you feel like you can help her get over it or her if she's willing to try. Just be aware that you might end up hurt at some point in the relationship and as long as you're aware of it....well the best of luck 4 u
2007-01-17 19:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you guys should have a break , give her time to sort out her feelings, if she still thinks she loves her ex then let go of her.
2007-01-17 19:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up. You don't want be treted like a fool and get half a reward. If she still love her ex then she should go back to him. It's pointless to be with a woman if she can't give you her whole.
2007-01-17 19:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really sounds like it's time for you to leave. She will grow up, one day . . . Do you really want to wait for that? She may not be meaning to, but she could be using you for convenience. Maybe she's not, I dunno, but it just sounds like if you already feel the relations-h-i-t is going nowhere, and she's in love with someone else, well, I think you know what you need to do!
2007-01-17 19:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by niobiumboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll take a guess and say that she has seen him since you've been with her. Girls don't stay in love or at least tell you if he's not in her life. If it hurts, break it off, otherwise if your getting action, stay...who cares?
2007-01-17 19:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go.Don't waist any time or energy on her.She is being honest with you.If she doesn't love you,you can't make her to.Time will heal you and before you know it,someone will fall in love with you.Sorry.
2007-01-17 19:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try tellin her how much she really means to you. let her know that you never want to hurt her. then if she still comes up with reasons to stay broken up then question her true reasoning
2016-05-24 02:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋