He is successful, great looking, rich, and has every quality I want in a man, except his arrogance. I dumped him but really liked him. I dated around and even have a committment with someone else, but I still cannot get this man out of my thoughts. Some things he does shows his interest is still with me, but both of us are in such different worlds. Help!... (thanks :))
2007-01-17 19:05:49 · 10 answers · asked by bentley b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be greatful you did it... dumped him. and NOW you know why he is single.
personally, i find nothing more unattractive on a guy then arrogance.
ps-they are not that fun to live with either :)
2007-01-17 19:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'll say this: "I don't think anyone has a reason to be full of themself. Just because someone might be the man doesn't mean they have to act like it."
Relationships are about learning from the other person and if acts like there is nothing else he can learn then he's really not all that.
On the other hand if you dumped him out of jealously that he may be right or you just don't think you can roll in his circles, well then you need to face your insecurities. Being from different worlds is fine because the goal is to build your own world.
There is nothing wrong with being confident and feeling good about yourself because you are in a good position.... so long as you aren't obnoxious about it.
If you are entertaining his overtures make sureIf he's not showing interest just because you dumped him and now you are a challenge to him. But you did dump him so logic would dictate he'd still be interested. Why not just tell him why you dumped him and see if he'll change or maybe point out something you missed.
2007-01-18 03:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by Cybrocupid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...it might be me you dumped...lol. Well, I got dumped and had some of those things (fin. secure but not filthy rich...yet) and yes, probably some arrogance. But let me tell you something....the successful/rich things you mention, depending on his business, probably would not happen without some arrogance. It's a brutal business world out there and some of the biggest blowhards find their way to the corner suite. In other words, being arrogant is probably a necessary evil in his career and it spills over with you. Cut him some slack because he may be letting work and personal mesh together. If you like him as you say, arrogance should not be a barrier. Arrogance can change. I work in the investment world where examples are everywhere of formerly arrogant people now extremely humbled by investments gone bad. So...I'd say respond back to his attempts to show interest. I wish my ex would....I miss her a lot but I'm afraid her heart is elsewhere. you should not have to feel my type of pain. good luck to you. oh, and different worlds is good i think. It's nice having career/interest diversity in a relationship. DON'T BE PROUD...CALL HIM UP!
2007-01-18 03:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a toxic tie to this person. There is this great book called Betrayal Bonds, I highly recommend it.
Maybe you haven't learned the lesson yet. Maybe you should revisit hell, just to make sure it is still hell, and then remember why you left. You did the right thing the first time for yourself; look out for yourself first. Perhaps you should sever contact with this guy and wash your hands of him (literally(ritual) and figuratively).
There are men out there that have what you are looking for and don't have to flash or name drop to demonstrate how cool they are. Men, people that need to do this peacock dance are really boring when it comes down to it; in my experience most of them lack any real substance.
Keep moving forward and stop focusing on the past.
2007-01-18 03:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by S. Schaefer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a great learning experience for you and no burnt fingers for you by the sound of it. The problem now for you is confusion about what qualities matter the most in the man you choose? We cannot have everything. Even the richest most powerful ruler can not have everything he or she wants.
2007-01-18 03:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by kicking_back 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't compare his materialistic things to how he really is. While he has those things, his ego and arrogance will grow.
2007-01-18 03:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he puts his socks on like everyone else,one at a time.
2007-01-18 03:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Tazz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with your new men and try to move on from the old and in dew time you will get over him.
2007-01-18 03:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by ashlee s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you blow your best hook up honey,so get back in line and join the other fish looking for a good catch
2007-01-18 03:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by TONe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Balance everything before you enter his home!!
2007-01-18 03:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by SESHADRI K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋