I am a 29 year old virgin. I have been trying my best to wait to fall in love before I give my gift to a man, but it is so hard to wait. I have been asked by a guy I grew up with to just have sex, but I have no romantic feelings for him at all. I have turned away so many just sex guys, I am starting to think that i should just go for it, every other young person I know has. I am ready to take that step but I am single and steady looking for a good guy that really loves me back. one more thing... I am a home body, I don't go to clubs. I prefer a good movie at home or at a theater.
2007-01-17 18:57:42 · 21 answers · asked by erica19771996 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good for you. I'm sure there are several women out there who sometimes wish they had waited for a better moment. In all honesty your first time isn't going to be all that exciting, if I had it to do all over again (I am your age) I would have chosen a better time and a better guy. I say wait but be sure that you are honest with THE guy so he isn't shocked when the time comes. As far as your friend goes I don't recommend casual sex with anyone but I am very conservative on that subject. Be aware also that you may get more emotionally attached to your first, particularly since you have waited so long.
2007-01-17 19:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for us woman to have just sex doesn't exist because we get emotionally attached sometimes and if not its awkward to face the person afterwards. I lost my virginity at 17 to a guy I had no actual feelings for and I regret it to this day. I wish I could have waited until the love of my life came along. It would have been better if I could have waited until I got married because their is no greater gift to give to your husband than your purity. I know I may sound lame but that's my advice to you.And there are many good men out there that like home bodies. I ended up marrying a great man that was a virgin. Think positive and don't think about being a virgin as a bad thing, the man of your dreams will love that about you.
2007-01-17 19:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by jewelz1021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you will enjoy it if your doing it just for the purpose of loosing your virginity. If you really ready to loose it then at least do it with a person you are attracted to. The first time can be painful and you may regret doing it later. Sex is no fun if you can't enjoy it and I don't think you would if you are going to do it casually. You might end up hating sex instead. Why don't you go out on dates and find someone that you like first? If you have waited so long then wait just a little longer. Be patient.
2007-01-17 19:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you waited this long, you can wait awhile longer. If you have sex with this friend, you're going to be mad at yourself if it's lousy and that you didn't wait for someone you cared for. It's so much better when you care for the ohter person and they care for you back. I know it's hard to wait but hold onto your principals. In the end, you'll be glad you did.
2007-01-17 19:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really all that serious. You're probably going to be uncomfortable your first time, and inexperienced. Someone lied to you saying your virginity was a "gift". How are you supposed to meet people if you are a homebody??! Get out! You don't have to go to Dance clubs or bars to meet ppl. GL
2007-01-17 19:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by Marsnandes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love the guy, don't give it up. Love makes it much more pleasurable, if you can be patient in finding someone. I would advise that you leave the nest. Do other things like visit libraries, coffee shops, anywhere where people your age would hangout. Make friends and expand your horizons. You may hit two birds with one stone.
2007-01-17 19:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it for the hell of it.. just next time you are dating a man, and get the urge, don't refuse him- you may even end up in a relationship that way!
Seriously, its not the 1950s and I dont think men value virginity (I wouldnt imagine marrying one!!! )
If a man values virginity in a woman, he doesnt value the woman- after all, NO man is proud of being a virgin- they all prefer to have "experience" so why does this double standard influence any woman with self-respect?
(and yes, I am a male!)
2007-01-17 19:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you have already turned away the best you could have ever had? At 29 you should already be enjoying a healthy sex life.
2007-01-17 19:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've waited this long, just keep waiting.
I'm sure you've heard, sex is not that great your first time. And doing it with someone who loves you will make it a lot less painful!
YEA FOR YOU! I wish I would have waited!
2007-01-17 19:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have sex. It's an experience. Without love, it's not much of an experience. If you get out more and meet people, you might find romance and then you'll understand this.
2007-01-17 19:05:42 · answer #10 · answered by James M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋