Ok, well i'm about to call it quits with this girl that i really like. We went on a couple dates, things went well. Thing is, now she won't return my calls. I called her today, she answered (first time in a week she answered her phone) and said she was in class and she would call me later. Never got the call.
So am i right in calling it quits? Or should i wait? I'm tired of this, but i often jump to conclusions too often.
2007-01-17 18:49:54 · 20 answers · asked by holyitsacar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, i had talked to her in person on monday, asked if she had any free time this week and said "well i'm pretty busy".
2007-01-17 18:50:38 · update #1
I'm sorry to say, but as a woman who has played every game in the book, she is blowing you off. There is a fine line between playing hard to get, and simply not wanting to be with the person. Since you have obviously tried pursuing her enough, you should just stop calling her and try going for someone else. She is just another girl, I'm sure you can find someone who is better and who will appreciate your effort.
2007-01-17 18:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by beautylover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious as to if things "Went Well" what's the deal?
Sounds like it did NOT go so well, and she was either playing you for meals or something else is up.
Either way move on, stop calling her, it makes you seem desperate. Just totally ignore her, and if you see her again, smile, and say hello, and act like Mr. "Pfft. I could care less about you."
Look confident. If she liked you at all before, let her make the next move and chase you. Let her chase you and do not respond, she'll usually keep chasing you, if she's interested.
If not, look for someone else.
Alternatively, call her up, and say, "Hey, you know this was going to be a good thing, and I was going to ask you out again, but you're really not who I was looking for, I wanted to let you know, Iam moving on to a different relationship. Good luck." Then hang up. Do not pick up when she calls you back. And then move on.
Good luck. There are some good relationship books out there, read them. It's a constant dance between who is chasing who. The key being do not be available all the time. If some girl wants to go out with you, do not be available, 24 / 7, when she wants.
Otherwise, you'll end up as a boy toy for some aggressive girl's harem.
In the meantime, have fun, don't take it too seriously until you get older.
Oh yeah, practice asking for dates, to build confidence. After you have gotten turned down 20 times in a row, it doesn't hurt so much, you get used to it, and start making (non-sarcastic) jokes, which some women like.
It's a numbers game. Go on as many dates as you can afford. Anyway, good luck.
2007-01-17 19:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how impatient I'd get in your situation. But, give her the benefit of the doubt, just try not to put the cart before the horse. Why don't you ask her out on a date again and see what happens? Try not to fall head over hills for her because she may not feel the same way for you--just in case. That's what I meant about the cart & horse. Keep high hopes but low expectations. I think it's too soon to give up on her.
2007-01-17 18:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People have busy lives. You should be happy that her excuse is her education. You're better off than I am. I get excuses like "I just want some alone time". Then get told I spend too much money, (I own a house and he dosen't!) Don't give up, just try to occupy your time doing things that you like instead of thinking of her not calling you back.
2007-01-17 18:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by elshay2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly call it quits. My ex boyfriend pulled the same thing with me. I figure if they really want to get to know you/be with you. They will make the effort to get in contact with you...And would at least answer or get back to you if you call. It takes 2 in a relationship, and this seems like a sign of already bad vibes. I say call it quits.
2007-01-17 18:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really so, you take this as a caution before quitting, you try to call her regularly and speak in a very caring ang make her feel that you really miss her a lot. and u also try to know what she likes and dislikes, you may have done something that makes her feel bad and u were not unknown of that. all the best, dont lose ur hope. if she is really in love with u she will surely come back
2007-01-17 19:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry baby, I don't think she is interested. If she was, she would be calling you instead all the time! All her actions are a real tell tale sign already that is showing you that she's not crazy over you so just call it quits and move on.....
2007-01-17 18:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she's totally blowing you off. STOP calling her and move on. If she wants to date you then she'll call you back. Some women just can't break up like adults, they do it like 13 year olds. She SHOULD just tell you that she's not into it, not avoid you like this but that's dating women for you.
2007-01-17 18:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, sounds bad my man. Just don't say anything to her and let it go. Who knows, maybe you'll run into her in a month or two and she'll see you in a different light or something? I've had things like that happen to me. It was a nice surprise when it happened. Good luck.
2007-01-17 18:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something you need to know about girls.They love clothes and anyhting nice and they also love competition.
Get the point here?you need to find a girl who will make her feel jealous and rub it in...pass by her class with the girl, when you meet her tell her you have a date with some other girl.soon she will be running to your arms
Oh.. and make sure the girl who is posing should know the conditions of the game
2007-01-17 18:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋