We have only been together a little over a month, but we do love eachother.....but will this fairy tale last or will the new wear off? How can it last this good forever?
2007-01-17 18:47:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you think you're ready-then say yes. I don't think the time matters of how long you've known each other-if it's meant to be and if he's your soul mate-you'll live happy.
2007-01-17 18:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you`re having to ask this question ...... then you have a doubt in your mind.
To my mind a little over a month isn`t long enough, there are so many things that you need to thing about before you get married.
You need to think about where are we going to live and can we afford a mortgage, then there are all those bills to pay. Has he any credit card debts ?? have you ??
Money is a big cause of many marriage failures and arguments.
I`m not trying to put you off (although it may sound like it) : )
Just sit down with your boyfriend and talk about your fears and wants.
If you do get married and things don`t work our then you`ll separate, solicitors will become involved that`s more money, and remember unless you have a pre-nuptial agreement then your both entitled to half of everything, even if one of you went into the mar rage without anything.
I have been through all of this. I am now with a lovely man and have been for nearly 3 years. We will are going to get married early this year, I am older and a lot wiser : )
I think if after you and your boyfriend still decide that you want to get married then get engaged for a couple of years, start saving.
One last tip and this applies to everyone, always have some money of your own just in case things don`t work out, this is a kind of a back up.
2007-01-18 03:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, marriage is a big step, a lot of responsibility, and if you think that you guys are both ready to make that commitment to eachother then you should go for it. It would also depend on how long you guys have known eachother, you said that you guys have been together alittle over a month, that's hardly time to really get to know someone, people change, and since you barely know him, in a months time, you really don't know him at all. But if you have that feeling, when you just know it's the right thing to do, which you obviously don't have, because you're questioning it, then I would have told you to go with that feeling.
Hope everything works out the way that you want it to.
2007-01-18 03:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by xxjune242006xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He asked you to marry him after ONE MONTH? By any standard, that's waaaaaay too fast. SLOW DOWN. You really don't know this person well yet. I know you may think that you do but you don't.
Also, why is he so eager to marry you so quickly? Have you thought about that?
You're only one month into the relationship. You haven't even left the "honeymoon stage" yet. At this point, everything about your relationship is great and you can't get enough of each other. This stage lasts for a few months or so. This stage is not a representation of what you relationship will be like for the long term.
Slow down. Don't make a huge mistake.
2007-01-18 03:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, the new-love feelings fade. But the real question should be whether you know each other well enough to decide to stick together through that fading. Maybe you do, maybe you don't. Maybe his early proposal should be a red flag. Maybe it just means he's ready to settle down. But you haven't given nearly enough information for anybody to guess... and you shouldn't trust out guesses anyway. So talk it over with him and get advice from trusted people who know you and who know him. Try to not decide based on the emotions (as if that's going to happen), and ask for a long engagement.
2007-01-18 02:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time! Marriage is a COMMITMEMT. Get to know him first. Do you really love him or is this lust? Is he someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? Do the two of you have anything in common. Why does he want to marry you. There is no such thing as a fairytail. Even though you love each other you will diasgree. No relationship is perfect. Make sure you know what you are getting into before you say I DO.
2007-01-18 03:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by brickhouse03e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its too soon to tell but no one can answer that but you. Sometimes 4 week marriages last a lifetime, some end. No one can really tell what the future holds for you to. If you say yes, say that you two will have a long engagement, if you say no, you can say the same thing too. Follow your heart. No one can walk on water when it comes your heart and future, except the good man!
2007-01-18 02:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by sexykp78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Zoe, how old are you? Have you ever been told that love is temporary insanity cured by marriage. Have you been also told that marriages are destined for success if you make the right choice in who you marry?
In any event, I would revel in the love affair with your boyfriend. There is no rush to get married right now. See how it goes. Make sure any questions or issues of the heart are addressed/
2007-01-18 03:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only to soon if you think it is, my father asked my step mom after knowing her for about 4 weeks i believe might have been six, and they are going on 11 years. still a strong relationship too. you two are the only ones that know weather this should happen... no one here knows how you really feel about eachother... if your afraid to lose him then say yes and have a real long engagment.. if your not afraid to lose him just let him know youd like to wait a little longer... but dont just say no, that will most likely send the wong signal.... good luck and follow your heart
2007-01-18 03:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by hockeygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't marry that guy. it's to soon. you don't really know why he wants to marry you so soon. it's really strange that a guy would ask a girl to marry him without her giving him clues and even stranger knowing you only a little over a month. he's in it for something. you just can't rush into things like that. marriage is fully understanding that you've done looking for everybody and you can't love no one else as much as you love this person but you can't gain this type of knowledge in a little over a month.
2007-01-18 02:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by twan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A month is a very short time to get to know someone. I'd say it isn't a good idea.
Good rules of thumb:
Don't get married before you're 22.
Live with a partner before you marry them.
Wait 5 yrs after marriage before having kids.
2007-01-18 02:54:32 · answer #11 · answered by Marsnandes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋