I'm hanging out with this guy on Saturday and I know that when I hangout with him that we'll mess around (because we have in the past) and sex is an imminent possibility (we haven't done that but we've been VERY close) I know that if I have sex with him I will regret it later because I don't love him...But I want SO bad to do it with him. How can I understand both concepts and still want to have sex with him?
2007-01-17 18:44:00 · 13 answers · asked by Rachel K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I truly understand how you feel, as i do also have the same experience, knowing that what i did is not right, but still i proceed to do it and regret later.
Nevertheless, i do hope that you have the courage and strength not to do anything foolish which will lead you to feel remorseful.
May God's strength be with you to fight of temptation. Amen
2007-01-17 18:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't love someone doesn't mean you should feel guilty for having sex with them. If you care for him and you're both protected & careful, it shouldn't be that big of a deal. Obviously you care for him enough if you two have messed around.
If you still think you don't want to do it and you'll regret it, don't shave your legs or underarms before you go. lol Sounds stupid but if you're not prepared for him to see you like that and you don't want him feeling your hairy legs, you're less likely to give into temptation.
2007-01-18 02:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're human. We women love hard by nature, thus giving our everything to our male counterparts. I hate to say it like this but being in love is not a requirement for having sex. Sometimes you just need, for lack of better words, a good nut! You just wanna be able to have that same exhilarating, invigorating feeling with no strings attatched. Its normal and trust me, every guy you think you're "in love" with, isn't necessarily in love with you. But I do think its respectable that you want to be in love with anyone you have sex with or make love to.
2007-01-18 03:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by BeautifuLL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are allowing your hormones to run / ruin your life. Be wary of getting pregnant by this guy.
If you don't love him, you are making a mistake, having sex with him.
In the old days, they used to say "Don't have sex with anyone you wouldn't marry." This is because once pregnant, you are screwed.
My mother got pregnant with me, and my father left. She raised me herself, as best she could but it destroyed her health in the process. No guy wanted to step up and take care of me or my half-sister.
Don't go there.
Once a new life is created, everything changes.
2007-01-18 02:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An "imminent possibility"?
Is that like an "absolute maybe"?
Sounds to me like your libido is stronger than your capacities for sensible thinking.
Been known to happen.
For some people, it's a way of life.
2007-01-18 02:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you don't fall enlove with him i think you will be fine in having sex with him. Some women get hurt by having sex with their Friend because they really want more then that.
2007-01-18 02:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by ashlee s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says you have to love someone to have sex with them? GL
2007-01-18 02:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by Marsnandes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! dont do it! your'e not a prostitute. don't give it to him! what are you thinking? like you said, you don't even love him! don't let your lust get you in the wrong path. Good luck.
2007-01-18 02:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by illlhsm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you only live once and if your careful go for it.
2007-01-18 02:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think that's you call HORNY! Don't do it if you already know you will regret it - - - SELF CONTROL!
2007-01-18 02:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋