Parents giving financial help?

Question

I'm 22 years old.
Wanting to accept financial help from parents (not paying it back), is this greedy, selfish, time to grow up?
I have a friend at work who says she's been out on her own (financially) since she was 13 years old.
Should I feel guilty or should I just be very grateful I have such great parents?

Answer 1

If they offer take it...Someday you can do something nice for them...

Answer 2

My parents give me financial help and my husband hates. it. I never ask but they seem to know when I'm really in need. They do it out of love and I feel very fortunate.
My husband has had to earn every penny he's ever had (seriously from the time he was 7, he was working) and isn't quite sure what to think of the gifts.
I think if you are respectful and they knkow you are grateful, why not.
I also always try to give back in some way when they do give me money. I'll go with my mom to her church meetings in an outfits of her choice and be extra polite...that sort of thing. It makes her happy.
My parents are also older and in retirement and have said that at least this way they can see the ways they are helping rather than after they are gone.
BTW, I'm 28.

Answer 3

As long as you're appreciative of their help and that they're happy with it, what business is it of anyone? Your friend at work may feel rather envious of you and rightly so - it might have been hard on her to be financially alone since that tender age! One of my kids is now 28 and has been going through a rough time the past few years and we've been helping him out financially (and giving moral support) and will keep on doing so till he's back on his feet. No one feels ashamed or worried about this. I think it's unnatural for parents to insist their kids be financially independent too soon, although it's a good idea to get them used to managing money, helping with chores etc. No, don't worry - you're one of the lucky ones - hug your parents and tell them so. Also don't talk about financial matters so much with your friend.

Answer 4

At 18 you are able to move out on your own...if your that brave and can support yourself but most 18 year olds don't do it just because they can't yet. Because of 18 being an issue with some parents they may consider any financial investment in you from this point on as a loan to you. If you detect that from them or they have said that to you then you have your answer as to where they are thinking. Your best bet would be to just come right out and ask them of their thoughts on the subject. I have found that most parents help their own children through college from a little help to total help while the 18 year old child/student of theirs focuses on the topic at hand of being in college and doing your best to secure your place in life and your near future. Feeling guilty is not good. Feeling greatful is very good. The best to you.

Answer 5

I don't think you should feel "guilty," but you should be very, very grateful and you should work to try to be able to be financially independent. Financial independence gives people a great sense of fulfillment. Additionally, you will probably eventually feel indebted to your parents to do only as they wish when certain difficult situations come up in life. For instance, your parents may want you to do 1 thing and you may want to do another, but since they have paid for you, you may feel pressured to do as they wish rather than follow your own independent path in life.

Good luck.

Answer 6

You should be greatful that you have stellar parents.

All parents are not created equal. Like you, I was lucky. When I first branched out on my own, my parents would help me out financialy.

You're lucky. Too many parents kick their kids out and leave them to drip dry.

You'll become more financialy independant as time goes by. Probably in just a few years. It's hard getting started and your parents understand this.

It isn't a crime to fall flat on your face at first. Everyone does.

Don't feel guilty, just feel lucky. They obviously love you very much and don't want you to suffer.

As long as you don't always rely on them to bail you out at every bend and turn, you'll do fine. There's no need to feel guilty.

Answer 7

i am financially supported at times by my parents but i do pay all my bills and necessities on my own...usually i will not take it from my parents unless they offer it but i use there donations for things like groceries or gas money and what not...situations are different and if your parents can help you when you need it then be glad...its not greedy..you are not demanding it....and i am sure if your parents were not okay with helping you then they wouldnt do it either or they would let you know something...

Answer 8

Yes, it's selfish of you. Your parents need money for their retirement, they no longer have any income. Even if they do, it's time for you to find your own money, not sponge off them. Be grateful they are so generous, but don't take the money. Work and save up.

Answer 9

Be very grateful that you are so blessed. Accept what your parents have to offer and make the most of this opportunity to do well for yourself. That'll make them happy. Perhaps you'll be able to reciprocate in the future.

Answer 10

You have got great parents, appreciate and yea be greatful to have such parents.

Since they are not accepting anything in retun, there are loads of other ways you can show how happy you are for all that they did. Love them unconditionally.

Answer 11

You should be very grateful that you have family to help you like that...but out of respect to your parent you need to get a job and take them to dinner for appreciating everything they do do for you...