But i love my friend's family a lot. I love being with them all the time. I sometimes feel that i should have born in that family.I m avoiding talking with my parent and relatives.They too care me but i could not accept them. I hate my family, finding faults with them all the time. My friend's family gives me lot of happiness,but thats missing in my family. I m 24 now. what should i do? should i consult a psychiatrist?
2007-01-17 18:31:52 · 19 answers · asked by !!Love Is GOD!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
KEEP SMILING.
2007-01-18 03:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think u need the help of a psychiatrist.
what I feel fro your question is that there is something lacking in u r relation with the family. u need to find out what it is this becomes easier when u reflect what u love most in u r friends family. may be a little adjustments form both sides can solve this problem and yet if u find it difficult to adjust with u r family, you may take the help of a common friend or even a counsellor
best of luck don't lose heart
there is always a way out.
2007-01-20 18:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sajan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consult a psychologist.
Sometimes I do find myself caring for other people more than my family but i do not hate them. It is totally unacceptable feeling for a family that raised you since u were young. Think abt stuff they did for you when you could not utter a single word. They have contributed in many ways at least you need to recall all that to have that sense of appreciation and love towards them.
Someday you gonna have a family and you would seek love from your children and every member of your family, let not that day be a regretful day for you to recall the fact that you never loved your own family the that you own right now.
No matter what happens they are your family and they deserve to be loved for all they did and they did not. Think what all love you can give to them for all taht you have received not only from them but from everyone else.
2007-01-17 18:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you want you can consult.......
But according to me no one is perfect in this world and expectation doesnt gets fulfill always. You should try to be happy what you have got.. There are many childen who dont have a family or if they have a family also then they are not concerned about their children. But they dont think about these things and try to be happy what they have.
So you should try to be happy that you have got a family who concern and loves you. Try to be optimistic and concentrate on your goal. Forget about all these things and think positive.
God has given you a beautifull life dont spoil it .Try to be happy and make your family happy also. They have also done so much things for you. So accept your family..
They might be feeling lonely.. remember that no one is perfect and this a fact that they are your own parents.. so spend sometime with them...
ALL THE BEST FOR YOUR FUTURE...
2007-01-17 18:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Friangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 24 years old...Grow Up....Family is Family...You don`t have to be interested in your family life...but, being around them you must do ...without them you would have nobody...just your so call friends ...and they don`t last very long...like your family...
Family take care of each other ...(example) if something would go wrong with you...like kidney failure..and you needed a kidney
whom would you think would give you one...your friends family...
HAHA!!STUPID !!!NOT!!! your family would....they love you enough to do so...your friends family don`t....you need to grow up...and show some respect to your family and try to find some kind of interest in your family because they are the only people that cares and love you the most....Seek a psychiatrist...because they would tell you the something I just did....
2007-01-17 18:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by tshee70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thearpy would be a good idea. It's natural to see other's families and wish you had what they had but you need to remember that the grass isn't always greener. You should feel blessed that you have a family that cares for you at any age. That's alot more than some people have. Be thankful for what you have instead of being obsessing over what you don't have.
2007-01-17 18:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always the things u see are not the same in actual. even in family persons are of varies type. We always like things when they are others when it comes to u u see the faults. u can also see moon from far away it looks so clear & whits but if we see close to it then it also has black spots in it . So i also thing that htere are peoples when they are far away they look good but when u stay with them for whole day u see their bad habits also.ur parents are ur blood relationship they might have lot of bad habits which might be unbearable . but have to love them with all thier good & bad habits . U may also have the same But still they love u .
When i was in mothers place i use to feel my mother is not like other mother who does beautiful food for their child But now i am married now i now my mother is so addjustable in every situations .She never crib about any thing even she does not have them & my in laws are so restricted to their only concept 7 don't like to adjust with new envoirnment Now i have to work out every thing so that they like it. its becames very hard.
so just love & accept persons with all thier nature , defects.& if u feel try to change thier bad habits.Only see what good they have u will to stay with them. Just clam down . take a break Start with a new & fresh way to love & apreciate ur parents for thier good Best luck
2007-01-17 18:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by dilu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where youre coming from. But keep this in mind. Someday if your ever in real need for money & a place to stay the ones who will most likely provide that help wont be your friends family, it will be your own. So before you reject them completely think about what real love is and who would come thru for you.
2007-01-17 18:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 24 already so start behaving like one. Stop the whining and start appreciating the family that you got. Be thankful that u still have a family.
2007-01-18 19:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by Akki's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its just that you have lived with them all your life, of course you are going to see their faults, and not your friends families faults. They probably dont even show their bad sides in front of you. Just realize that Your family will always be there for you, your friends family will most likely not.
2007-01-17 18:36:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like your family then move out & lead your own life. Are you still depending on your family at 24?
2007-01-18 02:44:58 · answer #11 · answered by Cave Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋