i cheated! what can i do to gain his trust?!?

Question

i was talking to my ex and one of his friends and didnt tell them i had a boyfriend. my ex's friend sent me a text message asking if i wanted to have sex with him, i replied in the text, "why do you ask" and then called him and said no, he then asked me if i wanted him to come visit me (my ex and his friend are in the army) and i said it wouldnt be a good idea. then his friend sent me another text asking if the offer was still on the table, and again i told him no. my boyfriend saw the text and broke up with me, but we still live together, still sleep in the same bed and still deeply love eachother. im desparate to get his trust back, ive cried for a week straight and every time i try to eat i throw up. i never want to hurt him again, even if he was a dick in the past, what can i do?!

i would never sleep with anyone else but my boyfriend. i straight up told both my ex and his friend i didnt want any kind of sexual relationship with them. i just didnt tell them that i had a boyfriend nor did i tell my boyfriend that i was talking to them.

i would never sleep with anyone else but my boyfriend. i straight up told both my ex and his friend i didnt want any kind of sexual relationship with them. i just didnt tell them that i had a boyfriend nor did i tell my boyfriend that i was talking to them. i know i messed up when i didnt tell him the truth right away but it was a fight i didnt want. also i left my boyfriends little brother for my boyfriend and didnt tell him til a month after we had been dating

he says i cheated because i lied to him about everything. i think he knows that i honestly am sorry, everytime my phone rings and its not work he answers it, everytime i get a text i show it to him, i know this isnt a quick thing to fix but i really cant see myself being happy with anyone else. i told him this many times and he doesnt believe me.

Answer 1

A relationship is build with trust and once it is broken it really take times and lot of hard work to mend it.

If you really love him and regret what you have done, prove to him your sincerity.

God bless you and your relationship

Answer 2

You didnt cheat. I have been there but you didnt. So there was really no harm done. Your boyfriend assumed that you would. Here's what you do, if you can...on a day that hes free: Get a some rose petals and put them all over your home. Buy some red light bulbs, dollar store sells them. Wear something sexy. Leave him a note expressing how you feel and what really happened. Tell him that you'll give me the best present by being honest with him and tell him that you want him and only him. You love him more than anything. After this, you two should be back on the right track! What I am trying to say, is do what you have to do to show him that your body is for him and him only. You two do not need to be going to bed angry because no one is promised tomorrow. By the way, get a new cell number and give it to the RIGHT people. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

That doesn't make any sense. You didn't cheat on him. From your details, you continued to say, no. But I guess I can understand why your current boyfriend would feel a little weird about people texting those sorts of messages. So, are you two able to talk openly and honestly? If you're still sleeping in the same bed, you probably can, and I think it would be worth a try to better understand where your boyfriend's coming from, let him know where you're coming from, and then see where it goes from there. If there's a worthwhile relationship, you two'll get through it.

Answer 4

Get real. And consider the reality of your own values. For instance, apply them in mind of when things change in life, like if you had a different boyfriend that was something that you like that your boyfriend now is not. Or perhaps if he was a real prick but the sex was good, what would you think then? And then apply those values to the instance that you cheated and then go ahead and say what ever you can that will work for him to stay. Yeah, what might be better is if you deal with it like the real you wants to. Perhaps you want him to just get over it because you are happy with him and you really haven't a reason to cheat. or you can also suggest that him breaking up with you is a power full incentive for you to be with him and with that in mind would not be with any one else.

Answer 5

The best thing u can do is not expect to see difference in them about u . Just decide in yourself thatt, that is something u will never do again and live that way. When someone walks by that looks like the person u cheated with, don't look just ignore it and be with your man and love him.It's not about proving to them but you need to prove to yourself that it was a mistake. In time they will decdide that they can trust you and if not know that u were wrong and dont let it happen again. love the one you are with and don't let anything take you from it if you think they are the one.

Answer 6

Oh dear me, sounds like alot of misunderstanding to me, you didnt sleep with his mate, and its not your fault if the mate keeps texting you, how can you make someone stop texting apart from changing your number, you told him NO, so what part of that doesnt he understand. Your boyfriend is behaving like a baby, I think I would explain it to him calmly again,. and he still wants to carry on with this nonsense, then let him, just get on about your business, he will get over it when he sees your not making a play for his mate and it is him you love. I would ask him to let his mate know that you are not interested in any affair and would he please stop texting you. This should open his eyes if he has to speak to his mate about this harrassement. Just hang in there and let him get it out of his system in time. Afterall you didnt do anything wrong, in fact I think you did the correct thing. Good Luck

Answer 7

Well you say that he was a dick in the past. Are you really sure that you want to be with this guy. I really don't think you do. My boyfriend is very very understanding and loves me very very much and i don't know why. I cheated on him, because i honestly didn't want to be with him, when he found our, he forgave me in an hour. If you guys are really meant for each other, i think he'll forgive you if you just talk to him. Say you didn't mean to, say that he's your man. If you guys should be together, and you really want him, then talking should help.

Answer 8

unless you leaving that part out. it doesn't seem like you cheated at all. you need to tell him that he jumped to the conclusion really fast without even letting you explain the situation. look him in the eyes and tell him you didn't cheat on him and that never even crossed you're mind that you're stupid ex boyfrind bought it up as a joke and you said no repeated times. tell him don't let you're ex be the down fault of you're beak up because it makes no sense to be punished for something you didn't do.

Answer 9

Just go back to the point when you used to trust each other and love each other.
You have to explain to him and later on give him space to heal.It will take time for him to trust you.let this be a learning expeerience for you so that you can be honest to everyone in your life in order to avoid hurting him again

Answer 10

FROM WHAT YOUR SAYING U DIDN'T CHEAT.JUST EXPLAIN THE SITUATION 2 YOUR PRESENT BOYFRIEND.I THINK THERE'S STILL HOPE SINCE YOUR STILL SLEEPING IN DA SAME BED & DUIN ALLTHE OTHER COUPLE STUFF..IT'S GONNA TAKE A WHILE 4 HIM 2 TRUST U AGAIN BUT SHOW HIM HE'S THE ONE U WANT 2 BE WITH & NOT THAT EX OF URS OR HIS STUPID FRIEND.CHEER UP!!PERSONALLY I THINK WHAT HE'S DUIN IS EXTRA.