Whose lost a loveone?

Question

Whose lost a loveone and blamed God or themselves. Yet know now they didn't have anything to do with it. It just happen! Sincere help please?

Answer 1

I've lost all members of my childhood family.
I have a wonderful husband and 5 grown married children.
I grew up knowing that we are born and we die.
I never blamed God or myself but I did search for blame somewhere because we are just, for that time being, in such a state of denial.
I have learned that losing a loved one is very painful and for me it was loosing my Mother. I felt she always looked to me, (her only daughter) to fix things and I couldn't fix Pancreatic cancer.
I have found that God's timing is good although it sure doesn't seem right at the time.
Down the road as an active Christian I see his plan unfolding and it gives me such comfort that I can now share with you that Joy will come one morning, as you begin to heal.
When you reflect back on your loved one, try to remember the love & special one on one moments that you shared and let go of the painful memories. Your loved one does not want you hurting. Don't you know that ?
Their spirit moves with you. I know my Mother has been gone 21 years and I talk to her little picture by my chair most every day and I feel her presence. Makes me feel good to still laugh and talk with her.
Do spend quite time in memory and cry if it helps, that is much better then holding it in.
I hope I have helped you in some small way. God is good and he is here for you. Reach out if you can and know I and others care about you. [e-mail]

Answer 2

In 1996 my nephew had a very bad car accident and was paralize from waist down...I blame God for a long time...while he was in the wheel chair for years he got into a depression that nobody could bring him out of that situtation..He overdose on some pain killers..in 2002...He is now gone...and til this day I still blame God for taking a young healthy boy in 1996 and then turn around and take him for good in 2002...I believe very much in God but, there are things about God I can`t understand ...Why would he hurt people he suppose to love..and so on....

Answer 3

In 1987 I lost my mother and when my 2 sisters flew to Florida where we lived, this huge, battle of who was gonna get what started, my oldest sister took over the whole situation like she had it planned, and when my moms funeral came, and a couple of her closest friends didnt show up, I got blamed BIG time for not inviting them. I stood up to my sister and said.. "You took charge of this whole thing, why are you blaming me for this?" Then the next thing I knew I was getting blamed for my mothers death because I had put her thru so much (wich I didnt, I gave her less aggrivation then all 4 of my siblings put together). For a long time tho I did feel it was my fault though I knew it wasnt.
In 2003 my bf of 5 years passed away 1 day before our anniversary. After I found out he was sick, I blamed myself for not seeing his sickness and getting him to a doctor to get help. The doctors convinced me his sickness wasnt visable and that he prob didnt even know himself that he was sick.

Answer 4

I just lost my dear father 4 months ago. I never blame God, but my brothers and sister start blaming my oldest brother and wasn't his fault. Were days of fighting and trouble. Finally, after all these time, I was able to speak to them, that our father was old, and it was his time to go. No child wants that his or her father to die. Now we start talking again and they finally understood that God called him and that our father need it to rest in peace. My family lives in other country and I live here in the U.S., and I felt guilt also, because I never saw him again alive after one year and a half. But after that, i feel OK now.

Answer 5

my husband... he blames himself... his dad passed away december 10th ~ working up to the days events... at 1pm his mom stopped by and told him he needed to go see his dad, he hadnt seen him in a month, and he wasnt doing to good...she took our two kids home with her... they spent time with their grandpa and his sister came and picked them up from their house around 6... my husband fell asleep at 9, and i stayed awake until around 2:30 am working, at 2:45 as soon as i got off the internet his sister called and said his dad had passed away... therefore he blames himself for not going to vist and saying that he could have done something and then he blames his mom (his dad was a cancer patient and refused to be put in the hospital even though he couldnt eat) and he blames himself and his mom... he's been a WRECK, and he has random flipouts and breaks down and confess it was HIS fault and if he'd just have MADE him go to the hospital and things like that...

Answer 6

well i lost my Mom last year,i did not blame God but sometimes I feel like what could I have done to make things better for her..I tried hard but she was very difficult but I miss her so bad and can,t talk to much about it...

Answer 7

okay....it hasnt happened to m...but it happened to my best friend...and we're like the closest ever so i felt pretty much everything he was feeling cause i was there for him....anyways he lost his dad......and he thought it was his fault but it wasnt it was cancer...i told him that it wasnt anyones fault and that all you caould do was just pray...and thatas wat he did but he still lost his dad....he also lost a lot of his faith....he thought that godd wanted his dad to die and leave him....but its not true....if you lost a loved one and you know that they were innocent and that they didnt deserve to die then it just means that god is calling to them because they have a higher purpose not here...but in the after life.....and that they wouldnt want you to mourn all the time...if they truly loved you....be happy and try to live a fullfilling life......and always remember that they are looking after you...always.....i hope that helped...if it did e-mail me.....thank you :)