I work fulltime and don't have the time for myself. My son is starting to tell me I am selfish. What's up with that?
2007-01-17 17:37:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What's up with that is your son is selfish. If you can sit, or want to, great! You are under no obligation and little ones are a ton of work. He needs to take care of his obligations and hire a sitter if he needs a break. How dare him....BTW, I'm a new Grandma too. I only started taking my grand daughter over night when I was written off work due to medical issues. Before that, I also barely had time for myself, let alone the patience or energy to babysit. Don't give into emotional black mail.....You'll regret it if you do.
2007-01-17 17:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, my mother has 8 grand kids and she never babysit. If you have a full-time job, you are not self fish. Being a grand parents does not mean that it is your official duty to keep the kids whenever. Although it is a priviledge and should be treated as such. It will not hurt to help out once in a while. Trust me the rewards will be great in the long run and you will develop a bond with your grand kids.
2007-01-17 17:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is selfish, not you. Not to be rude but it sounds like he's just looking for a free babysitter, I have a two year old (the first grandbaby of the family) and all I expect out of my parents is to spoil the heck out of her. That's what grandparents are for. You raised him, it's ok to give him advice and help out every once in a while but it really isn't your responsibility to take care of your grandchildren everytime your son needs a sitter.
2007-01-17 17:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by ~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grandmother, I am with you 100%. I have one grandchild. I told my children before they ever thought about having kids that I was not the babysitter. I still work full time myself and I am divorced. I have a 16 y/o at home and three grown children. I told my daughter with the one grandchild that I was tired of raising children and I wanted to have some fun before I leave this earth. So stick to your guns grandmother. Let them say what ever they want. Our kids know just like we did that if we bring them into this world we were going to have to keep them and take care of them. That's what they have daycare for. Stay strong sister!!!
2007-01-17 17:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have six grandchildren and I love every single one of them. But they are not my whole life. They have mothers and fathers who had them and it is their responsibility to raise them. I will be there to help out when I can. But their parents are not going to but their responsibility off on me. Don't let your son make you feel bad because he wants you to take on his responsibilities.
2007-01-17 17:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by leaving.florida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is wrong, not polite like that.
If you can talk to him, and empathize with him and maybe find that he can't afford to have a baby sitter, and if you are rich, you can suggest to find him a nanny.
2007-01-17 17:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by Summer O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the selfish one. Isn't bringing him up enough? Do you have to bring him and his child up? Does he also hope that you bring up his grandchild? His child is his responsibility, not yours. He is a spoilt brat. Ignore him and if he brings it up again, tell him "that's your baby, not mine".
2007-01-17 22:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son just doesn't want to have to pay for child care it is expensive. Don't worry about it, just let him know you raised yours.
2007-01-17 17:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋