I have an 11 month old son and am curious to know if there are little tid-bits that people want to share about things that they wish they would have done or wouldn't have done when their children were growing up. Anyone want to share from their personal experiences? Thanks.
2007-01-17 17:33:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Believe it or nott, they grow FAST!!!Enjoy every stage and milestone. Being a parent of 3 and now a grandmother, its the most challenging and yet most satisfying job in the world. My children are my greatest accomplishments. Spending quality time is much more than quantity. We always shared our day at the dinner table.
2007-01-17 17:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by always curious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Bring him to church weekly, if you love him, this will help him learn to love.
2) Love him like loving yourself, this will teach you to be a better parent.
3) Be happy and patient while making him happy, good mood will do both of you good.
4) Put yourself in his shoes, this will help understand what to do.
5) Make sure he always have a father and a mother, don't even consider divorce or think that divorce can solve any problem. Even if your spouse is difficult, be your spouse's spouse for the sake of your child. You know you love your spouse and so does your spouse. The day that you 2 made your son is the evidence that you 2 love each other.
2007-01-17 17:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by GalantLee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach them a second language. We send our kids to a school that teaches in both English and Mandarin. It is the best thing we ever did for them. It was really hard at first because we did not speak Mandarin at home and we could not support them with their homework. However we persevered, after 8 years, I can honestly say that my kids now speak as both languages fluently. Kids are like sponges and its much easier for them to absorb another language when they are young. My eldest child is now in middle school and learning a third language, Spanish.
From the Multilingual Children's Association's website:
Aside from the obvious advantage of being able to speak more than one language, it impacts your child positively in the sense of self esteem, future job opportunities and ability to live and travel abroad. Additionally, countless studies show that both analytical, social and and literacy skills are improved when growing up with several languages.
2007-01-17 18:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by luffy1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for them, ask um how their day went, how theyre doin.(like in school) All they want is for you to notice them and be proud of um n love um. Hangout with um. ask um what theyre into, what they like and help with it. They are changing and growin up. They need to have time by themselves too. Oh and about the dont part, pick ur battles, dont nag about every little thing. They will learn from their mistakes, but you can still guide um. I was in the same boat as you, LOL they dont come with a handbook!! Good luck and I wish you the best.....Dont worry you still have the teen years ahead of you...Cheers:-P
2007-01-17 17:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by kmw4696 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, you have chosen to alter your life profoundly. The rollercoaster of parenting is not something I would have missed.
The responsibility, the fear, the joy, the terror.......you are at the start of the best and probably the most profound years of your life.
As to advice, first and formost, set the example you wan't to be your legacy. Kids are smart, they will call you on small hypocracies even when quite young. It get's worse as they age, bless their hearts. Do as I say and not as I do, builds rebellious, contentious children who will make you walk coals in their teens.
If you did it, or seemed to have done it, they will do it more and better. Almost as if it was their job.
Our children have as much to teach us, particularly about honesty, as we have to teach them.
Heed what you learn, and this will serve you well.
Be everything you wan't them to be.
2007-01-17 17:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by Norton N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first - I wish I would have followed my own instinct instead of reading all the magazines and listening to other mothers about what my child "should" be doing or how she should have been doing this and that.
I can see how that affected me now because I have two younger ones and I enjoy what they do instead of worrying what they are doing...
does that make sense? Well, just listen to your heart, not all the advice you hear (unless of course, it's welcomed by you)...
2007-01-17 18:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Routine, routine, routine!!!! Kids are a lot calmer if they know what to expect. Plan your days, meal times, activity times, quiet times, bath times and bed times same times every day. Saves them getting bored, hungary and tired. With newborns NEVER rock them to sleep. We made this mistake with our first, and when he was 12 months old he still wouldn't go to sleep without being rocked. Bad mistake!!! Put them to bed and let them self settle, a LOT less painful on the arms!!!
2007-01-17 17:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, read, read, read. We read to my son from when he was born, all the way up until high school. He is 26 now and still LOVES books and is very learned and reads all the time. Also, invest as much of YOUR time as you can into his school, learning, and interests.
2007-01-17 17:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by dana5169 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be anxious for him to get to the next stage, just enjoy where he's at. They're little for such an incredibly short time.
2007-01-17 17:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by imdevaskyla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
play and be there for him
2007-01-17 17:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋