I met this guy online. We've talked for about 4 years, 2 on and off, and 2 started to really get close. I visited last month, and two weeks later, he told me that he has fallen out of love with me. He feels different towards me but isn't sure why. We've stepped back and became friends, but things are rocky. Everything was going great, until this "feeling" that he had became different. He said my confidence level dropped when I was visiting him. I think anyone would be nervous in a city that they're not comfortable in, meeting his entire family and friends, and also for the first time. Anyone have any ideas as to what is really going on in his head? He said that he was really happy with me, had a really good time, but was unhappy when I left. I'm lost, frustrated, and angry.
2007-01-17 17:25:08 · 4 answers · asked by Coreen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, you really can't fall out of love that quick unless it wasn't real. He might've had a different perception of you and when you met, he was disappointed. For him to say your confidence level was different was just a lame excuse. Of course he would expect you to be a little different in person especially in new surroundings. That's always uncomfortable. It's possible he met someone else or he just didn't feel a physical connection. Either way, it would probably save you alot of pain and annoyance if you just ended the romantic portion of your relationship with him. Remain his friend if you want but, go out and meet new guys. It sounds like this one has some issues and whatever they are, they're not your problem and they aren't your fault.
2007-01-17 17:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on. There's no point in trying to maintain something with somebody who can't be clear with his feelings about you.
It'll take some time, but you need to regroup and go back out into the dating world. Chalk this one up to experience and find somebody new.
2007-01-17 17:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Robot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fuggedabout him! Perhaps his image of the virtual you was totally different from the real you.
His loss!
2007-01-17 17:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by JADE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is what you make of it.... anyone can fall in love with money...try buying him a car.
2007-01-17 17:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋