when i like a girl, i tend to want to be really close to her, smother her with affection, gifts, anything and everything! i can't help it that's the way i am. but i ruined a friendship for being the way i am, it sucks and has caused me nothing but unwanted drama! help me? i don't know how to change, i know some of you will say, give her space but i that is the problem, i can't change! is it really bad of me to want to be with a girl i like a lot?
2007-01-17 17:14:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you have obsessive-compulsive behavior? Go check with the doctor, they have medication for this problem.
2007-01-17 17:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, there's a difference from showing your affection and be loving then, not showing you affection, wine and dining to just being an outright cheapskate sneaky lowdown privacy invading bug a boo. At least the women in your life knows, you care about her and you actually love her by proving your affection. You'll know if what she feels is real because she will reciprocate your the love you give. After all, love is a two way street and what you put in and is what you get back.
2007-01-18 01:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by Legsology07 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't change yourself! Showing your affection is definitely okay to do. Maybe your being too extravagant or materialistic. Most of the girls I know (including myself) like to have that security of knowing that they are cared about. Just try and downsize things you might do. For example, 1 rose instead of 12...or maybe just less often. I really don't recommend trying to actually change yourself completely though. It may be cliche, but if a girl can't like you for who you are, then maybe they are not worth it.
2007-01-18 01:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just need to find a girl who wants a boyfriend who acts like you. They are out there, you just need to find them. I know, because I was this kind of girl. I always wanted the guy who would buy me flowers and stop by my house unexpectedly just to say hi, or would leave a love note on my car while I was at work. Just find a new kind of girl! Don't change who you are for anyone!
2007-01-18 01:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by bashnick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every woman need that love and affection but still need space. But if you are controlling may be that's what make them disappear cause i don't understand why any woman would not like the affection. Just love them and when one need space try to understand and give them time that way you will have satisfied all her needs.
2007-01-18 01:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by auntsid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah smothering really isnt a good thing. but i think you just need to find a girl that will respect all the things you give her. maybe dont call her 09230384039 times a day, and when you do call, leave her a sweet message. call just to say hi or whatever and if she doesnt call back, dont keep calling. she will call you back if she wants to talk.
you dont neccessarily have to change, just tone it down a lil bit. i promise things will get better!!
2007-01-18 01:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by danuh_bananuh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to find someone that likes that much affection and can give you it in return.
Good luck
2007-01-18 01:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of females that would appreciate that kind of attention. You will just have to keep looking I guess.
2007-01-18 01:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by applebottom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My opinion - creepy. Go find another creep that likes to be smothered and all will be right in your world.
2007-01-18 01:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You'll learn to deal with it, sweetie. Good Luck!
2007-01-18 01:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋