i really like this girl, and want to love her. we've been going out for about a month, but whenever i see a sexy girl, i still pause to look. i know im not supposed to do it, but i just do... its not like im going to do anything to this nex girl, but i just like looking. is this wrong, because i got a girl that loves me?
2007-01-17 17:11:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ques : Why do men look at woman they can't have and when they are already with someone ??
for the same reason that dogs run after cars they can't drive.....
2007-01-17 17:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most significant thing you said is, "I want to love her." In other words, you want to love her but you are not now in love with her. You may actually be in love with the idea of loving someone. And that's OK. Wanting to be in love is a wonderful goal. Many people, men and women, have that goal: love, marriage, children, etc. But it sounds like you are feeling more guilt than love. You ask at the end if it is wrong for you to stop looking at other girls because, "I got a girl who loves me." You don't love her. Maybe you will at some point, but you don't now. There's love at first sight and there's love that grows on you. Perhaps there will come a time when you love her. The only thing to feel guilty about is if you tell her you love her but don't really mean it. And stop saying, "I know I'm not supposed to do it." There's no "supposed to" in life anymore. There's what you're feeling and what you're not feeling. When you look at other women, are you thinking, "Hey I'd like to know her," in the biblical sense, or are you simply thinking, "Hey, she is a good looking woman with a nice body?"
I am very happily married but can easily appreciate a nice male body when I see it. The difference is that I love my husband and have no desire to have meaningless sex with a man simply becuase he has a nice body. And it's fine not to feel that way about your girl friend. Just don't go hiring a caterer and minister/priest if you don't mean it.
2007-01-18 01:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking, but from what I can gather from your question, you are not ready for a serious relationship. you mention that you WANT to love this girl. you appear to have a lot of unresolved feelings. here, there, everywhere...usually when you fall head over heels for someone, no-one else exists, no matter if Britney Spears had to walk past, you wouldn't even notice because you are so smitten with your new love. the looking part only comes later. if your feelings for this girl were strong enough to enter into a serious relationship you would not be experiencing this confusion. in my opinion you are not ready to commit, so you need to make a decision soon so that you do not cause this girl unnecessary heartache. it would be selfish of you to continue dating her if you are undecided and unfair to her. give her the time also to meet new people if you have a wondering eye.
2007-01-18 01:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Bite Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Max...MAAAAAAAX! You're dating, not dead. There's a difference between looking and touching. Hopefully, your girlfriend is strong and secure enough to know that you can look at all the world, but you are standing next to her! Chances are, she looks too.
Stop worrying.
2007-01-18 01:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody looks, even the 80 year old toothless man. You are completely NORMAL.
2007-01-18 01:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong! Stop thinking with your little head, and start using your big one!
2007-01-18 01:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look but don't touch
then there is no problem
but if you touch, then you are a jerk and deserve to be kicked in the nuts.
2007-01-18 01:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even girls look at girls.And you are a guy. nothing wrong.
2007-01-18 01:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a habit men have.
2007-01-18 01:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think every guy does this just don't do it in front of her
2007-01-18 01:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋