How can someone be so ungrateful, I helped my now ex bf with alot even w/ his ongoing threats of suicide.?

Question

He expressed his love and told me he didnt want to lose me. I find out the reason he was feeling this way was bc he got a onenight stand pregnant months bfr we met. I helped him come to terms he decided to want to meet his child & I told him he should be apart of the childs life.Well, he decided to remain friends w/ me until he figured how to deal with it all, but to hold on to "us". But I found out he was developing feelings for the mom and he got caught out. We had a huge blow out and exchanged very hurtful words and was cold and hurtful..we never did before.Then we spoke again and he said it was all uncalled for. Yet, I feel he wasn't sincere about it. He wasnt even able to speak to me on the phone for more then 2 min.Now he doesnt want to speak to me at all.All I wanted was to discuss the matter.His he feeling guilty, does he feel imperfect in my eyes now, so he is acting defensive?Did he really want me gone? Idont want him back, I just cant get how someone can be this way.

Answer 1

let men be men.. sigh.. its good that you've decided not to want him back. cheers for you..

sometimes **** like this happens and the guy doesn't really know what to do. and so they do what they think is the best way - avoidance.

i admire you for arriving to the conclusion of not wanting him back. after this, there is no need for you to worry bout anything that concerns him, since he chose his way to avoid you.

if ever he wants you back, be careful.. don't let him persuade you to be with him, ok?

more power tough girl! :) more girls should learn from you!

Answer 2

Some men are just like that. My ex husband had a child with his previous affair and he refused to admit it was his. However when the brother of the mother wanted to adopt the child because she abandoned it, he called my ex husband and talked him into signing over parental rights. My ex husband was eager to and even left him his own baby book so he could know who his real father was! Then, years later after I had children with him, he has refused to have anything to do with our children after our divorce! Doesn't call them, doesn't send them cards for their birthday... etc.

So really, don't expect much from this guy. My guess is is that he doesn't have what it really takes to be an actual man. Good riddance.

Answer 3

i'm very sorry to hearken to approximately your situation. you at the instant are not obligated to pass the provider, as you at the instant are not a member of his relatives. you have sent your condolences to the relatives and that's adequate for now. the explanation we attend funerals is to convenience the relatives and others who may be grieving. We additionally pass to assert farewell and to recieve the convenience from others. As an ex-lady pal, you will probable not be referred to as a mourner who desires convenience, and you seem to have self assurance which you will not have the capacity to grant succor to the different mourners by utilising your presence. there is easily little closure to surprising emotional subjects that could properly be achieved for the period of a memorial provider. you do not could open up those subjects in the present day, yet can grieve on your man or woman. sturdy success.

Answer 4

He is a man-child, and will say whatever he needs to say to get what he wants. Let him be, you deserve better.

Answer 5

You should count yourself lucky that he is out of your life.I hope you will be wiser for that bad experience and start anew.

Answer 6

...sounds like being between a rock and a hard place..a professionally trained opinion is my suggestion...your call to make...

Answer 7

you are lucky he is not in your life anymore. sounds like a roller coaster of crap.

Answer 8

move on let it go you don't need this baggage no one does