2007-01-17 17:04:17 · 29 answers · asked by shantal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There isn't. It's impolite to ask for or specify gifts on your invitation. My advice is to have your wedding party get the word out.
2007-01-17 17:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
There is no nice way. It is against all rules of etiquette to express your desires on a wedding invitation! This desire could be spread, perhaps, by word of mouth. Best wishes to you!
Asking for Money as a Gift
Money – to ask or not to ask, that is the question. And the answer is definitely not to ask…but that doesn't mean someone can't get the word out for you.
So…what's the real story about money as a wedding gift? The first part of the story is that it is never appropriate for the bride or groom to ask for money or to include a request for money in their wedding invitation. If it is what they want or need the most, they should get the word out through family members, and it absolutely should never come from them.
2007-01-17 17:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Since your question isn't if it is ok, but whats a nice way to ask for cash, the only way I can think of is to set up a registry with American Express and set up a website. On the website have categories such as... "help with down payment on a house" and so forth. Don't in any way ask for cash directly. You can have a close family member, like your mom, call around asking if people are coming to the wedding. If a guest ASKS then she can tell them you prefer cash. I can't think of any other way. I would not do it, BUT it ain't my wedding and that isn't what you are asking! Good luck!
2007-01-19 12:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by in waiting 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to embarass yourselves, after all the gifts are not compulsory so appreciate whatever you get and be happy. Dont be obssesed about cash money, its the root of all evil. Dont ever mention that to your guests or you will satrt something at a time which is supposed to be the happiest in your lives. Personally if I was asked for a specific way to give a gift, i would not go to the wedding
2007-01-17 22:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no nice way; it is rude, tacky and impolite to do this. Guests invited to a wedding are not "required" to give gifts; most do because they choose something for the newly married couple as they start their life together. If you need cash for the wedding, honeymoon or house, your wedding guests are not the place to get the money. Adjust your plans or budget accordingly. Accept any gifts you get graciously, certainly don't "expect" anything...
2007-01-17 22:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
copy, paste, here we go with this question again! lol!
Its tacky tacky tacky to do that, First of all, the wedding invitation is to invite people to the event, to watch you join your lives together, not to solicit gifts. Please don't tarnish your invites with plees for gifts. This is what showers are for!
You also shouldn't expect wedding gifts, as it sounds like you are doing....if a guest happens to get you something, then you should be grateful no matter what it is, becuase they took the time to pick it out and think of you. No one HAS to get you anything tho, and putting this in the invitation will make it look as if thats what you are expecting. You can't dictate what people do with their hard earned money and time, and to do what you are asking about that would be doing just that. Also, I personally would decline to give a couple anything if they told me what to give them, registering and suggesting things that will best suit them is one thing, giving me no options whatsoever would frankly piss me off. Not every guest will feel this way, but lots most likely will, so keep this in mind!
My best advice is don't register-period, people will be more apt to give you money in that case. Have family members more or less spread the word about your wishes, but you do not directly ask for money, very tasteless to do so!
2007-01-18 02:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How many other people are sick of answering this question? It's like people expect suddenly one day everyone will answer "It's perfectly fine and proper to ask for cash on a wedding invitation, go for it!" It never has been, nor ever will be polite to even make mention of gifts in any form on a wedding invitation. I don't care how many cheesey poems people make up to mask it, it's just plain tasteless.
2007-01-17 18:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no nice way to ask for cash and never on the wedding invitation. But you could tell family and close friends what your preference is and they could spread the word around. Good luck.
2007-01-17 17:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by Deeday 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
According to proper manners, there is no way to ask for money instead of gifts. It's incredibly tacky. Gifts are not required, so you have no right to demand any certain kind of gift.
If you think your guests won't know the difference between tacky and classy, by all means, put "Cash gifts only, please" on your invitations.
2007-01-17 17:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by rinkrat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every single day someone asks this question and everyday the answer is the same. YOU CAN'T. It's extremely rude to ask for any gifts. It's also tacky to include registration info in an invitation.
2007-01-17 18:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋