2007-01-17 16:44:50 · 18 answers · asked by rajan t 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
1. do not cheer or act happy.
2. do not rifle through the casket or pockets for money.
3. do not ask for a copy of the will to see what you got.
4.do not pour out some liqueur and say... "this is for my dead homey!"
5. do not make passes at the widow.
2007-01-17 16:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by user name 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for the dear one who is promoted to the status of a free spirit ,secure from the machinations of mean souls in human body and also from well meaning friends and relatives offering endless streams of unsolicited advice, making choices more complicated.Remember the good hours spent with that dear person and cherish the memory, but learn to restrain the urge to burst into common expressions of grief, much of which is just learnt behavior, independent of the extent of actual pain, which will remain with you as an ache in the heart ,for some time, and then tiurn into a lingering slight ache. After some time, you are surprised that TIME has taken away that ache also, and what remains is that pure memory of good days. So, why not make a direct beginning with that itself in the first instance?
2007-01-18 01:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been to more funerals in my lifetime that most people will ever have to endure and although there is never a truly good answer to this I can tell you from experience the best way to deal with it is to just support your family. What works for me is chaperoning people around, introducing people and offering coffee and snacks. It keeps my mind off things when Im busy. I am sorry for your lose, take it one day a time and dont worry you will know what to do when you get there as long as you dont go running around being happy I think your good.
2007-01-18 00:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by CelticFairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing we can do! The 'thing' has been 'done' by HIM!
We should remain as silent as we can after expressing
our deep felt condolences and our concern for his family.
Of course, whatever we 'do' or we can 'do'
will be futile.Just think over of the person who has gone
into the kingdom of god. Be confident that he willcertainly
be happy even in hell-because,the earth might sufficiently
punished him for his misdeeds!Those who died early are
dearer to God.Those who still living are sure to go unto Him
at some time or other.But what remains in this world is
the perfume of our good/heroic deeds.Just ponder over the
good/bad of the person.Try to understand the conditions
that influenced his conduct. Don't blame the dead.Don't
cause his relatives any anguish or don't pain them.
Try to be sympathetic! Afterall, the dead person is just
human!!Wish the departed soul to rest in peace!
Say good words to those who came forward to help
lifting the dead body--because you and I or anybody
can never THANK such 'lifters' when we have to leave
this world!!
2007-01-18 11:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by psriramarao 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking for fun, then the answer lies in there itself. Just 'laugh'.
If you are serious, then you must carry a garland or flower pot and express your deepest condolences with utmost sincerity. If the deceased person is really your dear one, then you would automatically do what you have to do because that's one of the characterstics of your species.
Express your sadness, but limit to yourself as much as possible. If you show too much of it, then it is going to affect your other dear ones that are dearer to the dear one.
2007-01-18 00:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by jaggie_c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the good times and share memories with the others who also are grieving! Cry, if you feel like it , but also pray while in the church, watch what other's are doing and do as they do (in the church if that's where the funeral is at) The remembering the good times wouldn't be done in the church but afterwards!
2007-01-18 00:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by buffster06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer to do my grieving privately so during a loved one's funeral, I am quiet, thoughtful, and calmly dignified. I am very uncomfortable with anyone who "acts out" with lots of noise. That's not for public display. I believe in showing respect by being respectful and respectable.
2007-01-18 18:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To mourn gracefully & help the bereived to end the funeral without fuss.
2007-01-18 01:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about all the nice things they did when they were alive, all the nice things they've said, in what ways they helped other's, creating in loving memories celebrating their lives at the same time of course missing them. maybe bring food for their immediate family?
sorry, i'm not too experienced at this at all. but i think this is what i would do
2007-01-18 01:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remain keep quiet and atleast if u utter, utter some good words for the deceased.
2007-01-18 01:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by prashant_jain212000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋