I know this sounds rude but ok. My friend said she had a christmas present for me but she didnt have it with her when i saw her. We have gone back and forth the last few years sometimes getting each other gifts sometimes not. so after she said that I went out and got her a thoughtful gift that was something I knew she wanted. I'm broke but i spend $30 on it b/c i knew she really wanted it. I gave it to her the next time I saw her, that time and the next couple times i have seen her she said again that my gift was out in the car, or at home, or not with her whatever. then since then the last few times ive seen her it has not been brought up. I know it would be rude to say anything but how can I bring it up? It always seems like i get screwed like this. and i dont want to hear crap about the spirit of xmas b/c i know that i shouldnt be so greedy and materialistic. Ive already tryed asking her if she had watched the dvd's that i gave her for xmas but that didnt work.
2007-01-17 16:42:00 · 8 answers · asked by whatswrongwithme 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No you just can't ask her. I am not gonna preach to you about Xmas spirit blah blah blah coz I know just exactly how you are feeling about this.
All I can say is "Once bitten, twice shy" - try to remember that whatever she may say next year, don't buy her a gift coz she owes you one anyway!
2007-01-17 16:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would either ask her or just not get her anything next year. And especially not get her anything for her birthday as well. But if she keep's saying that your gift is in the car or in the house I would say "could I go with you to go and get it. I'm looking forward to seeing what you got for me." Keep asking her. Or if she really doesn't have a gift for you just don't get her any more gift's for the future wether Birthday or Christmas. Or in the future wait for her to have her give you a gift first before you give her a gift. So you don't spend time and money. Especially if you don't have the money to do so. Even if it something you think she might love and want/need.
2007-01-18 09:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't come right out and ask her. How about mentioning a gift you received from someone else? Like "Gosh, I just love this sweater my mom bought me for Christmas." Maybe the mention of the holiday will jog her memory? If nothing comes of it, I wouldn't plan on exchanging next Christmas. I used to exchange with a friend for several years, then 2 years ago, I gave her her gift, and she said she forgot it, or left it in the other car. Well, she finally told me, "I didn't buy you anything, I'm too poor this year." I was kind of shocked and hurt, but I give her props for admitting the truth.
2007-01-17 18:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not rude at all!
If she is your friend, just ask. If she is your friend, you'll understand whatever answer she gives you. And you both will get over it and continue on buying presents for each other when you can afford it and not when you can't.
I don't think it's rude to ask your friend.
Start by saying: "And what ever happened to that mysterious Christmas gift you said you got me... at least tell me what it WAS or what it started out to be! I'm dying to know!"
2007-01-17 18:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you think your friend is lying? If she has already purchased the gift, you'll get it eventually, so maybe patience is in order. If you think she's lying, then forget about it because there's no point in getting your hopes up.
I hope you had a good Christmas.
2007-01-17 17:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i agree with one of the above posters. you aren't going to get anything from her this year, so next year let her buy you something and don't feel compelled to reciprocate.
2007-01-17 16:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by JESSICA H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell u this
but she's lying to u
she pulled one over u
2007-01-17 16:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, just let it go.
2007-01-17 16:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by tatertot 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋