i was always the one doing the chasing and apologizing with every arguments and break ups. i think he is set with his mind now because his parents thinks he's weak with our break ups because we always get back together. i am also always the one who admits to needing to change and do not call on his faults. he says he doesn't love me anymore and do not miss me when 4 days before break up he said he loves me.
2007-01-17 16:41:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not good that this situation has you feeling so insecure and undermined and humiliated. I think that it would be better for you NOT to chase after him to get him back, it seems to me that you are caught in a vicious circle - he gets you feeling insecure, you go after him and tell him you're sorry, he tells you it's okay and all is fine again - until the next time. You say you don't call on his faults, and he says he does love you and then says he doesn't. This is a head wreck. He knows how to push your buttons, girl!
He's playing on your feelings, hon, making you feel unhappy and insecure. That's not good. You're better off not going after him, instead find someone nicer who doesn't undermine you. This boyfriend may want you back when he sees how much other guys appreciate you, the question is whether YOU will want HIM back ...
2007-01-17 16:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly-nobody can 'make' somebody do something-everyone has choices, options, alternatives in this life-so we shouldn't 'make' people do what we want them to do...thats bordering on bullying, or controlling type behaviour. Secondly, you seem to be doing all the work here and it doesn't seem as though he is that bothered about the situation, or your feelings and thoughts on the matter, so perhaps he is a bit of a mammys boy? Thirdly, the mixed messages syndrome-saying he loves you in the one instance, then saying he doesn't, and not missing you when you are apart?-you dont need the extra stress, the extra complications of a relationship like this...too many ins and outs, too many if's, and's or but's here, bin him and move on with your life-you can do better, let him mind fcuk someone else...YOU don't need it all.
2007-01-17 20:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone and let him miss you, then go out and get your hair done, buy new clothes, go out with your friends and just enjoy being on your own for a while. If he really does love you and wants you back, he will want you even more when he thinks you dont need him. Let him sweat for a while, then just agree to meet up again to talk and see what happens. Good luck.
2007-01-17 22:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Pauline N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what i think ? he is so sure that u will be always there , always apologizing that he lost interest .
stop doing it ...tell him ok , if he does not love you anymore its fine , u wont push anything and u should both move on with ur lifes.
if he really loves u he will come to u , this time being him with the apologize , if not ...well u will find someone else which will keep the balance
best luck to u
2007-01-17 17:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't make someone love you. If he says he doesn't love you and doesn't want to be with you then just leave him be. He might change his mind. In the mean time, go out and have fun, you never know you may find someone you like better which could even make him jealous ;)
2007-01-17 16:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and move hun cause he doesn't want you back. I used to do the same with my ex g/f. When we argued I used to be the one who apologize. And happened the same to me. On Sunday morning she said that she loved me and in the evening she dumped me. So stop this chase and move my dear cause you're hurting yourself by doing so.
Hope this helps hun and Good Luck
2007-01-17 18:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I now its really hard to get over someone you really like or love, But, life is like that, sometimes you gotta learn do the things you do not want to do. Me kinda in this situation, and suffering. But this is the way you keep moving on with your life.
Do not waste your time on him, it aint worth.
Plus, be Cool, and try to Smile although you dont feel like doing it, I am sure it will bring you a fortune~! ^-^
2007-01-17 17:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by a girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well whats up.i know how you feel.Except im a guy.this girl did the same thing.Well i relied on my friends and asked for help and they supported me and didnt let me go back out with that girl.well thats my story.As for you if you have a best friend ask him/her to back you up and not let you go back out with you ex.and always remember there are some many more great people out there he's not the only one. I hope for the best for you and god bless!
2007-01-17 16:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by stunner' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would forget him, it sounds like you are the weak one. Get strong, it can't always be your fault - it's not working so save your efforts to finding someone who cares for you as you are.
2007-01-17 19:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by chillipope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my goodness girl, get your self respect back and stop chasing this moron!!!!!!
it doesnt seem to be working out for you guys, relationships that keep breakin up are no god for either party.
also why keep focusin on ur faults? he isnt perfect im sure.
get away from him and learn to love yourself again-if you dont love yourself then how can anybody else?
2007-01-17 17:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋