2007-01-17 16:40:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
no but let them be involved before and after the baby,feel your tummy etc..,let them know you will need their help,let them pick out things for the baby and buy them a small present when the baby comes so they won't feel left out,tell them that being a big brother/sister is a very important job
relax things will turn out fine
congratulations!
2007-01-17 16:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I was afraid of the opposite happening. I thought that I would favor my first born. My oldest one gets a tad bit jealous at time but she is only 2 and the new baby is 6 mos. I think that a 7 year old will understand much better why a baby requires more attention. Every thing will be just fine your oldest will love the new baby and will enjoy helping you take care of the baby.
2007-01-18 00:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lin_Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you won't. You just have to introduce your new baby to your 7 year old,then she/he will love your baby the way you love her/him. At first, your 7 year old will be jealous at the new baby, but eventually he/she will cope up with the situation. Don't change your treatment with him/her even though you have a baby. Soon, the bond will be within the 3 of you, and you'll love that feeling when you see your kids love each other the way you love them.
2007-01-18 00:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 7 year old and I are very close. My wife is due in June, and my daughter and I couldn't be more excited. I took her out to buy the baby his/her (we don't know what it is) first stuffed animal. We take turns reading to the baby, and my wife and I have already agreed that when the baby is born, my daughter and I will have "Daddy/Daughter Days" where she and I will take in a movie, go out for ice cream, etc etc.
Instead of losing my bond, I'm confident that it will draw us even closer.
2007-01-18 00:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not.. you should psychologically ready yourself for it first.. maybe the 7 yr old would get jealous of your attention not wholly concentrated on him/her anymore.
you can make him feel better by asking him to help around the baby, and telling him that this was what it was like when he was small. ask him to be a big brother/sister and help feed the baby, etc. in short, make him feel important and that he is also a part of the baby's life. take care and play with the baby together.
2007-01-18 00:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having another child will change the dimension of the relationship with your 7-year-old. Of course, you will love them the same and your child will grow to love your baby, but things will be different between you. After all, your child will be sharing you with a whole new person.
2007-01-18 00:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by bashnick 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No hon, it won't :) I had those same concerns when I was pregnant the second time - but you will be fine. You sound like a good mom so you will help your daughter adjust to being a big sister and you will still have a *special* bond with her.
2007-01-18 00:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you'll probably have a closer bond because your 7 year old will be full of questions and will want to help.
2007-01-18 00:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by coffeemate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be sure to make special time for her. And involve her with the birth , the pregnancy , and the raising. She will need some time just the 2 of you if at all possible
2007-01-18 01:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by firedup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Don't you have enough love to make both children feel special? My mother had 4 kids and somehow found the time to spend with each of us individually, plus love aplenty.
2007-01-18 00:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by Rita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋