my boyfriend of 9 months , late wifes belongings are still on display she passed away 2 years ago,ive asked him to maybe just put them away but 3 months later there still around, any suggestions, hes also admitted he doesnt love me, and he finds it difficult me having an 9yr old child, as his are teenagers, my friends say end the relationship,as im just wasting my time, but we get on brilliantly, but im really not happy at the moment.
2007-01-17 16:36:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it might 3months or 20 years for someone to get over the death of there partner . you cant rush it , unfortunatly its only you who can decide to break up with him.
good luck
2007-01-17 16:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by aime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you get on brilliantly and you're happy with him, it doesn't mean that he loves and wants to start a relationship with you. If you're seeking a man that is looking to marry someone then I don't think that this man is the right one for you. I think that he has found a friend in you, a friend that is there to help and support him, nothing more nothing less. So yes I agree with your friends and you ARE wasting your time with him so yes end the relationship and move on cause you can't let too much time to pass.
Hope this helps and Good Luck
2007-01-17 18:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult situation, you can't rush him but you feel you two get along really well. Maybe you could try being friends, I would try that seeing as he has said he doesn't love you. You can remain in his life and help him cope with his loss while being able to carry on your own life happy or not, with someone else or not. He seems like a great guy who is saddened by his wife's death and may never be able to put it behind him and end his grieving. It wouldn't be healthy for either of you to stay in this uncertain relationship (closer than friends). It seems you two are together but you probably seem like friends with your actions. :) It will be ok, I have successfully stayed friends with men I once dated, it's possible.
2007-01-17 16:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by sunblindspirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be ready to move on.He may never be ready, are you willing to chance that? If his late wife's things are still there on display don't push the issue. Grieving isn't an exact science, there is no time table for it. It takes some people longer than others to go thought the process. If he is honest enough to say that he doesn't love you move on. If he comes around later that fine, if not you will be living your own life. Do not project the outcome.
2007-01-17 16:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart! This mans wife has died,yes it may have been two years ago but he has to grieve in his own time ! She was also the mother of his kids so she will always be around in them to remind him of what/who he lost. Give him time, leave off the pressure about moving her belongings and enjoy his company for what it is! Just because his wife died it doesnt mean he stopped loving her, maybe he will love you too when he has healed!
2007-01-21 02:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you act the way you're saying you do you're actually not any the place close to the class his ex-spouse exchange into in. BTW, being an excellent individual, treating human beings with admire does not something in this worldwide. human beings will stab you interior the returned just to get forward of their very own occupation and could ridicule you for being gentle, why? life's a *****. That''s why I admire not often every person, have faith no-one and if somebody treats me like crap, I take care of them like crap. That Golden Rule by using Moses crap would not artwork in this society. possibly interior the sixteen 1000's yet not now
2016-10-31 10:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant give a deadline to this things ...for u 2 years are a lot but for him not , he will never forget his wife but i am sure that when he feels ready inside he will move on ....right now he seems not to want to and u must respect this .
if u are not happy with him u already answered the question of what u should do , move on and keep it friendly
u never know what life has in store for u
2007-01-17 17:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had been married for 45 years when my wife suddenly died of pneumonia and for a month all I did was sit and stare at the wall Then I decided things must change so I gave away all my possesions and sold the house, then I bought a boat, New life, new me, and loving every minute..................
2007-01-21 11:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please leave him..... i know my situation is different from yours. i am currently going through one of the most painful events in my life. bf broke up with me after years of being together. if i had known that i would be subjected to this much pain i would have ended the relationship way back then when i still could. now i am just stuck in this very aweful feeling of depression. if you know it won't work then leave. don't wait until you feel as horrible as i do because i had the intuition to end a relationship back then but i didn't.
2007-01-17 16:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't subject yourself to any more feelings of rejection and depression. He doesn't love you because he still loves his wife. Put yourself in his shoes and then we can talk again.
2007-01-17 18:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Dilly007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋