......Change in terms of the way you dress , lose weight etc
And is it alright for the other partner to MAKE those changes ??
Considering the fact that we go for a particular individual for their qualities we can see & not for the one we CAN make ?
2007-01-17 16:32:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, well, Its true that the person you love should not expect you, or wish you to change in any aspect, as we love a person for his/her qualities and do not love to 'make' someone, or change him into sumone we want. That is what is written in all love fairy tales, and what we all expect in real world too, BUT !!! its also obvoiusly very true and evident that the person you love also wants you to change, so that you become the best. Its only a fairy tale liner that the person you love should not expect you to change, ask yourselves, some of the habits of your partner might irritate him/her, like snoring, smoking, etc,. little things ! you already are in so much love with that person, and you expect him to 'change' in some ways so that you become the best, best for your partner as he/she expects you. Its no wrong. You should consider for his likes and dislikes too, what he wants for you, how he wants you as, because you too want him as you want, isnt it. Accept it. Its not a punishable offence if your partner expects you to change for your and his happiness. Do it for his/her pleasure :-)
2007-01-17 16:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by wachie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should love you regardless. If he leaves you and wont accept you for the way you are, then he is obviously a shallow person. I was really pretty when I met my Bf in the very beginning. After 2 yrs, I broke out in major acne and gained a protruding belly. He still tells me I am beautiful till this day on and that I should not change. Better yet, he fights w/ me and tries to prevent me from going through a serious treatment for acne called accutane. Dont let anyone make you feel like you need to change, unless you want to for yourself.
Good Luck
2007-01-17 16:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by BitterEnding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky question….
I believe the ideal relationship is when two individuals are able to bring out the best in themselves through the companionship of one another, then use the “bring out the best” to give back to into the relationship.
So, whether “it’s justified & OK if the person you love (and are in a relationship) to expect you to change” depends on how you feel of what your companion is asking you to do. If you’re not comfortable in loosing your individuality then you will not bring out the best in yourself through the union and hence on a relationship point of view it’s not justifiable for your partner to ask you to change.
2007-01-17 16:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Justin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not? I think we go into a relationship with someone to better our lives to some extent & if they feel that they see room for change in a good way then we should accept their opinion & try to do what is right. In som cases where the change causes destruction it would be acceptable to refuse the idea. Like if you are told to start drinking to loosen up or something like that.
2007-01-17 16:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUH...wow...that's kind of a tounge twister...whirl wind. Ok...well lets see...is there anything at all about your partner that you do not like? Think of something/anything and then bring it to their attention. Give them advice to help them correct this problem(s). In other words; let them see how it feels...and maybe they'll get the picture. If not; are these "changes" that big of a deal that a break-up is the only solution? If so; then it wasn't meant to be in the first place. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-17 16:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by shaylea29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy! an adage stated no longer something is going for no longer something, i do not somewhat imagine is ideal no longer to espect even a kiss or an evening romance with the fellow you're in love with isn't right are you ill up stairs! you want to make certain a healthcare professional, a Pastor or your Imam, for religious council ling on love and present. Take each what so ever he supplies even his or her boo-boo.
2016-10-15 09:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. The person that does this kinda thing has control issues. You should love the person the way you found them. Its OK to suggest something to better the person or be supportive, but actually trying to mold them into something they are not is wrong.
2007-01-17 16:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by waltinaw74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldnt have to change for anyone, i mean that one person or many people out there should see you for you and nothing more. & not who you could be. Or who you can be. It is NOT OK!!!!!! Hell i had an ex bf that wanted me to change my dress style as in clothes and that wasnt me. I didnt want to b/c i was already my own person. & someone shouldnt have to change for their own liking.....ITS ONLY IF THAT PERSON THAT YOU OR THEY ARE DATING OR ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH WILL CHANGE FOR THEMSELVES AND NO ONE ELSE.
2007-01-17 16:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by fryeindustries2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds controlling to me - true love is a "come as you are party", honey. Demanding those changes is not ok if you're not ok with it too. Don't let anyone tell you any different.
2007-01-17 16:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. They should love you the way you are.
If the other person wants to make those changes for themself, that is fine, but they should not do it simply because they were asked to.
2007-01-17 16:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋