Is this a realistic fear? we are so close right now
2007-01-17 16:30:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hi proud single mom !
Thanks for asking.
I think you´re just fine and going to have a beautiful experience with your second child. Even though, it seems you´re a little alone with your question, is this why you call yourself proud single mom ?
Since there's no dad to join the group and be an additional "back" or bond, you have to play a doble role, maybe this is why you´re a little scared.
Remember, your children love you a lot for being their mom and loving them. Just tell your 7 year old you love him a lot and everything's just gonna work out fine. He will indeed love to see his new brother or sister.
Never ever let him know your fear or tell him.
Good luck and be happy !!
Best wishes from Xalapa, México
Christian.
2007-01-17 17:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by kadampamigo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way! I'm due in a couple of weeks and have a 2 year old daughter. I'm worried about her feeling left out, pushed aside, etc. But I've been told by other mothers as long as you make time for both children, having another baby can actually make your family closer. Try bringing your son a present from the baby, I realize he's old will know it's not from the baby, but it will still make him feel included in the event. Also, have dad watch the new baby once a week and have a special time for just the two of you to do somethign fun, go bowling, see a movie, whatever he wants to do with you. It's easy to tell you not to worry, but since I have the same fears, I can just tell you what I'm going to try. Best of luck.
2007-01-17 16:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a realistic feeling, but you don't have anything to worry about. The baby will be sleeping alot at first, make sure you spend quality time with your 7 year old.
If possible, set up family to watch baby so you and your 7 yr old can go out without the baby once in awhile too. - Movie or whatever you guys do now.
Set something that is a special activity that you and your 7 yr old enjoy now, that will continue to be special even after baby is born.
And make sure the 7 yr old helps out with baby so that the 7 yr old knows he/she has special duties too and feels valued in relation to the baby.
Your new baby can bring you and your 7 year old much closer - just plan ahead and create activities to enjoy together with and without baby along.
I have three: oldest is 14, and the younger two are 2 and 1: so I've had to be creative when it comes to my oldest.
Your feelings are normal, but you will see that your heart just grows bigger to make room for all of them!!! God bless!
2007-01-17 16:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Involve him. We have a 4 year old and an 18 month old. Our fear was all the attention going to the new baby. We involve the older one as much as we can. He is a great helper.
You will never lose that bond.
2007-01-17 16:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Quant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congatulations! Well, the way to further continue to keep your bond with 7 yr old is to involve him/her with the actvities of the baby. Give her an oppotunity to do small things like bring baby powder something like that and then appreciate her for being a great and responsible kid.Tell her this baby is brought in the house for her/his company. That he/she is the rolemodel for the baby. So, in the process kid will be around, occupied and feel important. Finally, this will make the older kids bond stronger with you and the bady as well.
2007-01-17 19:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by angbhi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-01 08:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its upon u to comfort ur 7 yr old coz he/she is still small enough to understand that u need time for ur new born and i think that ur sister or anyone near u can play a very imp role in it.
they can be with ur 7 yr old when ur nursing ur new born baby.
best of luck.
2007-01-17 16:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by krishna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry,your 7yr old is ready to gravitate to the next level.Remember every one is constantly changing and if you are feeding them Love,and guidance,thats what you will reap.
2007-01-17 16:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by siaosi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will not alter your bond. If anything thing it may give you another thing to bond over
2007-01-17 19:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋