my girl friends father is really really protective of his daughter and she told him tongit after we've been dating for about 4 days now and i might have to meet him soon and i'm scared shitless of meeting him and her familiy, (big brothers that are also the same way, with uncles), i need some advice w/o looking like a suck up to him or makin a fool of myself, could you help me out a bit?
2007-01-17 16:23:30 · 16 answers · asked by Brook R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well start off with a firm handshake, firm, not crushing, not limp, and use "sir" whenever you answer him, yes sir, no sir. Be yourself as much as possible, except if you're a punk just after a piece of a*s. Show some confidence. And get her back home BEFORE she is supposed to be back.
2007-01-17 16:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an expert on this subject...
and I'm going to give you additional advice...
1. Be yourself (unless your a jerk and a jackass)...
2. Being Nervous is ok... it's all part of the game, just don't be a puss about it.
3. Bring her FLOWERS when you go to meet her family.
4. This is more important than #3, Bring her MOM FLOWERS.
5. Be straight up and honest, don't pussyfoot around anything.
6. If your taking her out after you meet her pop's and bro's be sure to open the dang car door for her.
7. Don't even sweet her brothers, as long as you treat her cool.
8. Don't tell her that your father and brothers make you nervous.
8. Finally and most important... the additional bit of advice. Ok, when you go to pick her up, be sure all your car doors are locked... when you open her door for her, walk BEHIND THE CAR, look in and see if she leans over and unlocks your door for you, if she does, YOU GOT A WINNER, if she don't... dump her right there on the spot. Why, because she's a selfish whore, who only cares about herself and will never love you for who you are.
Don't get offended by that, just trust me on it! Good luck
2007-01-17 16:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by sgtgregg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show them somehow that you are protective of her as well. Not against them but against others. Drop a comment about sticking up for her on something or how it really frustrated you on an occasion when someone said or did something to her. It has to be the truth so think hard. If they see that you are a guy who will defend her while they are not around it will show that you care about her. They will relate to you. Don't over do it or you'll look possessive.
Also it wouldn't hurt to say or do something that show just how lucky you feel to be dating her because you don't deserve her, at least not in their eyes.
Above all, be yourself. Be truthful and open. If they ask you something and the answer isn't something you're extremely proud of, don't lie or gloss if over. Own up to it and take responsibility. Let them know that you've learned your lessons.
Also, talk about your own family relationships if they are good. Don't talk about past girlfriends, etc... Be funny but respectful and smile. Make eye contact with her dad. Not in a challenging way but, when he talks to you look him right in the eye. If you can't, then look between his eyes, at his nose or forehead he won't know the difference. Older men really respond well to a young man who can look them in the eye.
And don't forget a firm handshake. Not trying to crush hands but firm with dad, brothers and uncles. Smile and nod when you shake their hands.
If you can't win over the dad then win over the mom. She has more clout than dad probably.
Hope I helped and good luck
2007-01-17 16:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by tragic_exile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a protective mother, which is worse than dealing with a protective father, I can relate to this. You should look them in the eye when being introduced, shake their hands, and smile. Answer their questions with confidence because there will be many, look presentable, (no sagging pants, cover up if you have a bunch of tattoos). Please talk like you have some goals about you, if you don't you need to make up some........that is very important......
2007-01-17 16:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by LucretiaJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The father's main concern is that you should respect his daughter as much as he does. That means, you will protect her from harm also. You would never do anything to hurt her or her relationship with her family. You would not permit others to be disrespectful of her, etc. If you communicate this to him, it will help.
Perhaps he will ask you some questions about yourself. Just be open and friendly.
2007-01-17 16:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its just normal for the father of the girl to be protective of his little girl. But its also very normal for the guy who is dating her to be really really nervous. Just ask your girlfriend more about the her dad, find out things he likes and see if you have anything in common such as sports. So than when you met him and there seems like the odd silence bring up it up. Be polite of course, always say please and thank-you. If you have any earings, take them out, and tattoos cover them up, dress up a bit, but not to dressy, just clean look. Smile and look him in the eye when he talks to you. Answer all of his questions with the best of your knowledge and try to relax, he will see that your nervuos and it wont help you. Ask your girlfriend for any good ideas and tips she might have on what to do or not to do. Rather than that , just relax and be yourself. Never swear, just act like you were in church. You will do just fine, it always seems like the father isnt all that bad and is easy to get to know and not be affraid of him, just dont do anything to hurt his daughter and he will like you.
2007-01-17 16:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine so. They understand how they were and really do not want their woman relations contributors being dealt with that way. although i understand that is stressful, that is more effective perfect than them no longer giving a crap. the perfect concern you may do is coach that you're mature and able to searching after your self. Ask them for advice and cause them to sense major and prefer they are helping out.
2016-10-15 09:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEFORE YOU EVER MEET HIM IMPRESS HIM. IF SHE HAS TO BE HOME AT A CERTIN TIME, BRING HER HOME 10 MINS EARLY. THEN WHEN YOU DO MET HIM. SHAKE HIS HAND SAY YOUR NAME. LET HIM SEE YOU OPEN THE DOOR FOR HER. DON'T KISS HER ANYWHERE HE WILL SEE YA. HE IS NEVER GOING TO LIKE YOU, JUST BECAUSE SHE IS HIS LITTLE GIRL.
I WANT YOU TO SIT BACK AND THINK FOR JUST A MINUTE.
SAY ITS 15 YRS DOWN THE ROAD AND YOUR MARRIED NOW AND A DAUGHTER YOU HAVE RAISED SENCE SHE WAS BORN, FIRST WORDS, FIRST WALKS, YOU WATCH HE GROW. AND NOW SOME BOY IS GOING TO TAKE HER AWAY FROM YOU.
NOW WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE THE BOY TO DO, SO HE CAN DATE YOUR DAUGHTER????
GOOD LUCK, I HOPE YOU TAKE THIS TO HEART AND DO THE RIGHT THING. JUST DO YOUR BEST.
2007-01-17 16:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by foosarat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to suck up just treat her and the rest of her family in a respectful manner Yes Sir, No Sir even if it fells phony they will realize that you are a gentleman and treat their daughter, niece or sister in a gentlemanly fashion and that they don't have to worry about her.
2007-01-17 16:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by Katprsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to look any bigger than you are and don't try to look any small than you are be yourself..show that you are a man not a boy and how much you care about her daughter he can trust you because you will never do anything to hurt her in anyway...
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-17 16:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by Holy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋