I am so tired of people saying that I am childish and immature...........?

Question

They dont say my personality is childish just the things I say and do. Like when I failed classes 1st semester/college because I took more advantage of my freedom than I should've they said I was being childish and when I wrote this blog that went somthing like this ( I was a fan of this actor Tracie who has a myspace. Her messaging was blocked so I messaged her cousin I saw that she had logged in but had not returned my message. So I thought she has enough time to log onto myspace but can't return my message. So I wrote her back and I told her she was evil and that she made me feel like s**t because I was really offended. Then Tracie opened up her messaging and she was able to answer my question but then she told me what I said was threatening and she blocked me. 1st I was crying and so forth because I just had been blocked by an ex favorite actor but then once I was like screw you you are not all that anyway) They said this blog was immature. I'm 17 were those signs of immaturity

Answer 1

Yes, they were immature acts. The MySpace thing was also incredibly self-centered. The fact that you messaged someone doesn't create any obligation on that person to return the message. And messaging the cousin of someone in whom you are interested comes awfully, creepily close to stalking.

BUT - you aren't happy about it, which means you aren't a creepy person. You aren't reveling in it or getting your jollies, you know? You aren't a loser.

You'll be much happier when you start spending time doing things with real people you know, instead of thinking about actors or people online. The internet isn't real life, anyway, you know? I mean - there are real people behind these screens and keyboards, but they aren't nearly as important as the ones closer to you! If you don't know enough cool people, then they're waiting for you to get out and meet them.

Are you going back to college for a second semester? Prove that you aren't so childish or immature anymore. Find people in each of your classes to study with, even if you aren't too interested in the subject. You seem like you might be a "people person," so maybe studying will be less boring that way? Use your freedom to find what works for you :-)

Good luck with it. I believe that you can turn things around and figure that out for you, and that you want to do so, which is why you posted about it.

Answer 2

If you are concerned with your behavior, then work to change it. Specifically, I know someone who has had this same sort of problem with myspace. I don't concider him particularly immature, but he has some social issues. He sent a message to someone on myspace and when they didnt respond he sent another message asking them why they hadn't responded. For some reason they fliped out on himand told him he was just looking for attention and really sad and basically made him feel like crap...even though they knew (or should have known) it was hard for him to reach out in the first place. So, of course, he immediatly responded back in a hostile manner..this went back and forth a little bit and now they arent talking at all. And this was a friend he knew in real life. My point is even though I think this friend DID treat him badly, if he had waited to fire off a nasty letter and not resonded in the heat of the moment it might not have been such a big blow up. It still bothers him. I think sometimes the internet really distorts our comunications. It's easier to attack someone on the computer with distance and amonimity then face to face, and it seems like things get nasty quicker. Everyone has their weaknesses. Recocnizing and working to change these weaknesses is the MATURE thing to do. I think that if you worked on impulse control, and made an effort to really think things out rationally and not react emotionally first you could resolve this issue. before you send any angry letters...sleep on it!

Answer 3

look at it from the actors point of view there was a reason her messaging was blocked probably because she was swamped day in day out by people wanting to talk to her sending her emails asking for photos autographs always wanting her attention maybe she wanted some time to her self so then you talk to her cousin who probably deals with the same thing she probably had hundreds of other emails day in day out being related to an actor and didn't have time to get through every single one at once then she gets one thats very offensive from you, yes I find this immature secondly you spend your money probably your parents damned hard earnt money to do a course you are not going to take serious what was the point in going to college if you weren't going to even try and pass? if you want freedom work damned hard save up and travel the world there are people out there who cant afford college yet aspire to get somewhere in life but will never be given the chance of a good education take advantage of what you have don't go stuffing it up maybe it is time you start acting a bit immature sometimes the truth hurts

Answer 4

Speaking as a fellow 17 year old, yeah some of the things you do seem to be rather childish... and it is your own fault for taking more advantage of your freedom.. mind you i am lucky because i have a lot of freedom and dont abuse it ( my mother trusts me). I think that yeah you do some stupid or childish things but who cares? Have fun while you can! :) Although you might not want to post stupid things like you just did because everything you wrote and the way you wrote it made you seem around.. 9... or 10 ish

Answer 5

Well if s/he have blocked you that means it’s a clear indication that s/ge don’t want to talk to you , so why to waste time on thinking about that until and unless its very important and some special fiend as so .. You need to decide , what and who u should give priority …..

Answer 6

u concentrate on the things in life that aren't all that important, when someone doesn't do what u want them to do, u try to control the situation, try to get your own way. your focus is on all of the wrong things, immature stuff that won't get u a career, won't better your life at all in any way. yes u may be tired of people saying these things, but it's a fool who can't take criticism.

Answer 7

who cares about them? care about yourself. just because some other people say that you're immature doesn't mean that you're, like, a murderer or sumthin like that...live like you are. be what you want to be.

Answer 8

get a life

Answer 9

Grow up.

Answer 10

you should get a job and shut up