how can I help him through the next weeks, month? He wants to be clean, and is miserable going through it in front of me- but I just want him well. What can be done to ease this process- cause it is terrible for him even though he is weaning off the drug slowly? He doesn't sleep, is grouchy, jumpy, has leg cramps, emotional, can't stand noise, etc...
2007-01-17 16:11:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
For yourself, come to terms with the fact that you cannot help him if he chooses not to accept it. However, it's just really important that you show him that you feel no anger/resentment/superiority toward him. He should know that you love him unconditionally (if you do) and that you don't feel like he's a loser or a pathetic person (which is probably what he feels like if he's ashamed of going through this in front of you). What he's feeling is to be expected of somebody going through such a thing.
That's probably not the most relieving answer, but really there's nothing you can do but show him in whatever way you can that you love him. Maybe make him some soup or bake him a cake. :)
2007-01-17 16:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by ya_tusik 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please try and remember that he has to be very selfish at this time. I'm not saying to break up with him, but be prepared when he isn't thinking about you and your feelings at all because what he's going through is enough for him to have to deal with. Methadone is the hardest addiction to get over. I would suggest not putting any pressure on him AT ALL about your relationship with him. He won't have the heart or the right state of mind to deal with those types of issues. So you'll somewhat have to put that stuff on hold. If he starts being really cruel, then give him space, some time to be alone.
He needs professional help. If he's coming off of a drug like that he should really be in a rehab center or clinic that can handle not only the physical problems, but the emotional ones as well. I am a recovering addict of several drugs, but luckily I never got into that one. I didn't like the idea of getting help, thought I could do it better on my own. That's what we all think at first, but it's wrong! He needs to learn why he started doing drugs, deal with that, then learn how to DEAL without the drugs, get into support groups AND NA meetings. One thing I can tell you for sure is that once the physical problems start to subside, he cannot hide in the house. He has to get outside and face the world again. He will need to know how to deal with that. So he should go to his family doctor, or clinic, then the doctor will tell him his next step.
I know that some ex-methadone users have to spend the rest of their lives on meds because it permanently messes you up. I also know that in Rehab centers they sometimes have meds they give you to help you with the comedowns, and then they slowly ween you off that. Although, I did unfortunately hear that methadone makes you unresponsive to most meds until the meth is out of your system enough. Either way, stay strong and good luck to the both of you. Keep faith in yourselves. I hope I at least helped a little...
2007-01-17 17:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i didnt find anything that worked for the physical symptoms although i know that for the psychological addiction it was absolutely nessassary for me to get help from someone else. i tried and tried and i could never fix me. i would get a few months or so and sure enough i'd be right back at it. so i would highly suggest treatment that is 12 step based or NA and AA meetings. im an addict but personally i like AA better. after about 2 and 1\2 weeks the physical stuff lets up a little and just gets easier and easier but if he goes back it will only be harder next time i promise you. i've been clean for 17 months now and i was real out there so good luck too you and him. just remember there is help out there and he doesnt have to do this alone, no man i've ever met could carry that weight.
2007-01-17 16:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by skytzo ! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-20 01:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by Daphne 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just give him time. let him know that you will always be there for him. no matter what and tell him you love him and you guys will go thru with it together. >=]
stuff man...
2007-01-17 16:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you want a boyfriend that takes drugs?
2007-01-17 16:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by John B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find a new boyfriend fast
2007-01-17 16:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Beau B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋