Today I accepted a date, although I have came out of a long relationship...getting back together isn't an option.
My date tells me he loved me for years, personally I never realize it..till today.
I still have feelings for my last bf, I just don't want to muck this new relationship up.
i'm also nervous cause he wants me to go to his house to have a chat with his mum, last time i spoke to her..she was asking us to get married duh!!! and i was with my ex back than.
Any help would be nice, thank you
2007-01-17 16:08:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, the game of love is full of unavoidable awkward situations no matter what type of situation you may be in. Talk to this guy's mom just because. It doesn't mean you're destined to marry him. Just go through it and live your life for what you want it to be. If you aren't 100% sure of this whole thing and I do mean 100%, then walk away before there are regrets that could have been avoided...be single for a while, there's nothing wrong with that. Live your life and do some things you want to do; single things. Keep in touch with this guy and hang with him from time to time, but tell him nothing serious just yet. Leave the door open though because if you let it close, it may be closed forever. Help any? Let me know...peace!
2007-01-17 16:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by biggenius0891 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-24 02:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my.
Well, first, my advice is to make sure that the relationship proceeds at a pace that is suitable for YOU, not his mum. If marriage isn't in the cards yet, then you MUST tell him (and his mum).
Only you can answer the question if it's a rebound or not. Some people need some mourning time for their previous relationship; others move directly into a new one.
I know a lot of us guys don't like hearing it, but maybe you should give the "friends first" stipulation a try. At the very least, you have that friendship foundation to fall back on if it doesn't work out romantically.
As far as your ex, well...I understand about you still having feelings for him. You probably always will, especially if it was a decent one for the most part. The important thing is to remember that the past is the past and build from it. Capitalize on mistakes you made and try not to make them again. Watch for similar mistakes in your new guy and, if you're willing to live with them, tell him about it...gently.
If getting back together isn't an option, then you have to move on. You have to. You'll cease to live your life to its potential if you don't.
2007-01-17 16:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by White Dude X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe going to his house now is too soon. But if you really like this guy...if he seems to be good to be around, then give it a chance, but take it slow. This new guy says he loves you....how long has he known you? And maybe he has had feelings for you but how well does he really know you? Don't rush into any thing new just to get over the past guy. It sounds like you have come to terms with the fact that you and your ex are over and one with but it takes alot to let someone else in. If this new guy will treat you right and you feel comfortable then by all means go out and have fun. It's hard to let go of the feelings you have for your ex, but try to come to terms with it cause you don't want it to linger on and possibly affect what you might have to look forward to with this new guy. If you aren't sure of the whole mum thing, then just tell him how you feel. I'm sure he will understand...just be honest and be yourself....You decide what's best for you. After all, no one can make you happy if you are not happy with yourself.
2007-01-17 16:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by alymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is his dream not yours ... take time for yourself. Don't rush into anything. Be honest, if he truly cares, he will understand and wait. You cannot turn feelings off over night and to give less to the new guy isn't fair to anyone. Enjoy the time together but keep it light - nothing serious - I sounds like his Mother's thought process is off. You want your child to marry someone who loves them totally, not someone who is emotionally involved with someone else. Be careful and give yourself the gift of time - to heal. You deserve it!
2007-01-17 16:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him, tell him you need to be friends for awhile, maybe dating a little, but nothing to serious. if he loves you then he will care enough about you for you to be happy and COMFORTABLE in a relationship. if you are feeling pressured its not a good reason to go into something serious. by being friends you will get to know him a lot better, and this will make a stronger basis for a relationship if the time comes and you decide you want one! good luck darling...
2007-01-17 16:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take it slow, and be honest with him about the fact that
you still have feeling for your ex which is normal but dont lead
him on if you really are not over the other person. just take it
one day at a time, and go from there, it will work it self out at
the end.
2007-01-17 16:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was with my bf for 6 months. on the day he dumped me, his friend asked me out. it was so tough but i grew to really like and care for him. sometimes, the best way to move on is to just go for someone else, especially if it was a long relationship. when your talking to his mom, just try to avoid the awkward questions or laugh them off. it's just a first date and you don't need to love him today or tomorrow even if he loves you already. just open youself up to him and the hardest part will be over.
2007-01-17 16:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋