bf of three years broke up with me about a week ago. asked him today how he felt and said he doesn't miss me or love me anymore. tried to convince and argue about going back out again. do you think if i stop calling and convincing him he will want me back? everytime we have fights i'm always the one who would apologize and chase him.
2007-01-17 15:48:16 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him go. It easier said than done but if he told you he doesn't want to get back together then you need to go on. Yes you are right by not calling him. You would only make it worse and possibly drive him even farther away. Obviously he has a reason to have split with you and he doesn't want to make amends. Just leave him alone and if a time comes that he comes back around then you will have to decide if you want to let him back in. Don't sit around and wonder what he's doing. The more you keep yourself occupied the better. And who knows , maybe he'll begin to wonder what you are doing if he hasn't seen or heard from you. But don't expect it. It might or might not happen. You were the one who kept the relationship going by chasing him and probably apologizing when you didn't need to. Now it's time to change all that. Be strong and every once in a while remind youself that you deserve to have someone that gives you the love that you are really looking for. Mr. Right might not come along tomorrow ,or even next year, but keep an open mind about it cause when you are least looking for love it will surprise you. good luck!
2007-01-17 16:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by alymarie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay so like this is deffinitly really hard and im sorry you broke up. Thing is liek i dont know anything about you guys so im taking a blind shot at this...If you are the one who would always make the relationship work, he was not putting in enough effort it should be mutual and i know this is cliche' but it isnt meant to be. Its hard coming from me cause personally iv never been in love..well yet but i honestly think just form this you can do better. Or just gove him some time, perhaps he needs space. DO NOT be clingy, jealouse or a pure *****!! rremember that! its important!!
Hope that helped:)
2007-01-17 15:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you stand your ground, one of two things will happen:
One, you'll gradually feel yourself move on. Then you'll be in a better position to guide your own life without having to worry about your boyfriend and what he thinks and does.
Two, he'll realize what he lost and come back. It's at that point when you really have to ask yourseif if you REALLY want him back because you love him, or if you want him back because you're afraid to be alone, or if you even want him back at all.
It's easy to say, "well, he's a loser, don't take him back." But is he a loser to you? I doubt he is, in your heart. But you have to look in there to find it out.
Chances are, he's putting up a front by telling you that he neither misses nor loves you anymore. He's saying that to protect his own feelings, because, unless he really IS messing around on you, he does still have feelings for you and just doesn't want you to know it.
The best advice I can give you is to do what's best for you. But something tells me that you're going to do okay no matter what. Keep your chin up; you'll be okay.
2007-01-17 15:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by White Dude X 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to ought to declare this yet, in the experience that your ex started seeing others so at once after breaking it off with you he had already left the relationship long in the previous the words have been uttered. He might of probably have been cheating on you first of all. once you rejected his grant to have intercourse without strings linked you wounded his ego so it grew to alter right into a game to him. regrettably, you fell for it. He ended up with what he wanted & slammed you day after today to boot. you ought to allow this one bypass, he's not properly well worth the discomfort you're coping with. permit this be a lesson found out & bear in mind that no you may nonetheless use you till you enable them to. carry your head up & pass directly to better issues- it fairly is his loss, not yours. Take care!
2016-10-31 10:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't just not call him, pretend that he doesn't exist. And move on with your life quick and if it didn't bother you one bit. Make it clear to who ever is watching you, that you are happy, and enjoying your life... But like you said and some, what ever you do, don't call him. Delete and/or shred his number if you have to. Go give your self a make over, go shopping, and/or have fun. And most of all, Love yourself. Try to forget that he even exists and before you know it, you won't want him anymore. And just maybe, he will see and notice this new classy high self esteem to good for me but I still want her YOU!
2007-01-17 16:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by ‹(•¿•)› 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly he broke up with you, people tend to break it off for a reason otherwise he would have talked to you about fixing your relationship. He had to break up with you for a reason, don't pressure him about getting back together, give him a week of silence and call back to ask, "Can we hang out for a bit and you tell me what I did wrong so I will know for my next relationship?" and then try your best to move on, if he was a nice guy and still is maybe you can be friends.
2007-01-17 15:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by sunblindspirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, give it up. All you are doing is embarrassing yourself by chasing someone who doesn't want you. I mean he made it blunt by telling you. Save yourself from yourself by leaving him alone. You CANNOT MAKE SOMEONE LOVE YOU!!! It's called stalking and harassment if you want to be technical. It just hurts my heart to see girls or women putting themselves through this kind of torture for nothing. I mean for Christs sake, Miss, HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU! Even if you stop calling him, he won't. Try this: Lick your wounds and move on.
2007-01-17 15:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let change a situation where he is the one who take the first strike. If he doesn't call in three days time. Then you should firm to your self not to continue relation with him.
2007-01-17 15:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mat D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel a week ago my ex told me that samething that he dont love me but the sad thing is we need to move on and the good thing is we will find someone better am with you on this:)
2007-01-17 15:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by ashlee s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop! i was just like you, my bf broke with me many times and i always called back first. one time i didn't. actually i realized i don't want to be with him anymore. 5 months have passed and he stills calls me begging to take him back. hehe but i'm not sure that i will.
you're situation might be different, but if you always call he won't respect you, knowing that you always want him. make him worry about you. guys don't like having handed everything on a plate.
2007-01-17 15:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by maya 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋