I have to get mad or cry to have him hug me even at that it is a lazy hug and we never have sex. we sleep in separate bedrooms and he never takes me on dates. he even stopped kissing me before work and i confronted him and he said i am acting like a kid! i cried ofcourse i was hurt by that. we have two babies and we both work. still i am lonely for him and we haven't cuddled in what seems to be over a year.
2007-01-17 15:47:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a universal truth that guys are never as emotional and affectionate as women. Yes, a change of behavior may bother you but thinking practically, change is constant and life with its innumerable responsibilities makes one lose perspective of these lil important things of life . I'd advice that you guys talk it over and try explaining to him that hugging and cuddling up is required to keep the romance alive. Try and comfort him with your warm hug when work or anything upsets him and soon he will realise what he is missing upon. Hope the advice helps!
2007-01-18 21:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by lisa.reeves 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must have been something that turned him off so dramatically. Do you have any idea? Could it be that he is now the father of 2 babies and he has no clue what to do? Whatever it is,you must address it as best you can or find someone who will listen to you. If it was a conscious choice of his, I would certainly like to know what the motivation was.
You are a stranger in your own home. He needs to know that women need two things most of all. To be held and to be listened to. Your husband has fallen way short on both and you feel as if you are living in an emotional vacuum. You deserve to be treated as if your feelings matter and they do. I they don't matter to him, I am afraid the handwriting is on the wall. You know what I am saying. You cannot change men, you can only change yourself in regards to how they act.
2007-01-18 00:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are hunters by nature. If you want him to persue you the way he used to, you have to subtly pull back. Tell him he needs to watch the kids while you go out, then meet a girlfriend for a movie. Don't tell him where you are.
Also show him that you have a life without him. Maybe you should join a gym with a nursery service. Working out after having kids is great for a new moms confidence! Good luck sweety.
2007-01-17 23:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by seeker 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, we don't hug, kiss, or have sex like we used to too. I don't think you're the only girl going through this. I find that the more needy us females get with the cuddles- the more they back away. I would just ignore him until he comes to you. Good luck..
2007-01-17 23:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sucks! You have a chance to get out of this lousy relationship and be happy with your two babies. He doesn't give you any affection, so what do you want him for? You have nothing to loose, because he is not giving you anything. Dump him!
2007-01-18 00:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr Hankey loves you still. Maybe you need time together away from work and the children. Trust me - I'm the Christmas Poo.
2007-01-17 23:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the romance slips away .i suggest a holiday just the two of you get mum or dad to enjoy grand kids for a week or two..
2007-01-17 23:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by conan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like he doesn't like you like he once used to. The cause might be becuase of the children you already have.
2007-01-17 23:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by cowboysfan4lyfe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reverse psycology.
stop asking him, and one day he will click and wonder why you dont want to cuddle him anymore or dont ask.
if things are as bad as you say, what do you have to lose.
2007-01-17 23:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by rowdy rick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋