This girl and I have dated in the past. We were a couple for about 8 months and then we had a falling out. After three months of seperation, she and I began hanging out again. We ingaged in intimate actions right away. However, she said she does not want a boy friend. In fact, she said she wanted to be friends first and see how things go. We have been seeing each other for about 2 weeks now. Some days she says she loves me and is all over me. On the other hand, other days she seems like she is not inteested in me in a boy friend type of way. I love her deeply. I understand and agree that we should become better friends before we date. However, this back and forth emotions really confuse and at times depress me. When ever i talk to her abot this, she gets upset. Am I missing some thing. I feel like a fool because most men would just be happy they are getting "laid". She says she loves me, but does she? I want to think she does, but I do not know.
2007-01-17 15:44:53 · 8 answers · asked by tomuchthinking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, buddy I have your answer. On the days she loves you, love her. on the days she doesn't act like she likes you, just try to be badass but not mean or weird, just calm and collected. What you have to realize is that women don't really know what they want, they have some weird hormones that are totally different from us. Think of it like this: when a woman is "off" (distant, anti-social, mean), she usually wants a protector, protecting is different than comforting, protecting is the proverbal bad ***, distant but collected and calm, not violent but calculated and seductive but at a distance. When she's "on" (lovely and all over you) then it's time for intamacy and sweet romance/comforting and all that good cuddly stuff. A personal note from my own experience is thus: A chick will only be your friend, if you are not enough to protect her. A girlfriend is your friend that you like/love and don't want to get hurt emotionally and physically. Chicks want to do hardcore guys because they know how to assert strength. Oh and most chicks go overboard and forget about the Lovely stuff, if some jerk off screws them over. I call it the reverse ugly duck syndrome.
2007-01-17 16:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by GuitarJammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way for you to know is to keep talking to her about it and make it clear that is that what you feel, If worse comes to worse then you will probably need to end it. Something else it can also be that she is scared of getting hurt again by you... just talk to her.
2007-01-17 15:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by jayden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not sure about what she wants with you yet, She's confused, She probably does love You, But wants to see if you guys can get along better than b4, Just give her time, she'll come around, But if you dont wanna deal with it then stay distant from her
2007-01-17 15:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by Artsy-Fartsy-Momma 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Date others until this goofy gal makes up her mind. Enjoy getting laid and figure you are just "friends with benefits."
2007-01-17 15:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's using you for sex. When she doesn't want sex you are dispensable. You tried it once and it didn't work out. I think you should break off with her. Try to get over her. I hope you can.
2007-01-17 15:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she does love u only that she might be scared to have a true relationship
2007-01-17 15:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by anniegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it and just get it over with maybe she jaust want you for your sex who knows talk to her about it
2007-01-17 15:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by I Love Diet Coke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you get the sex without the commitment???????? you need to suck all that up you can...most of us would give our little toe for that
2007-01-17 15:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋