my mum was a nasty person all her life, now she is in her late fifties, she told me if i behave i 'might' get inheritance, but i ''might not'', everytime i see her i feel stress, she is such a toxic person.
2007-01-17 15:44:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
stop showing interest in the inheritence... parents typically use whatever leverage they can over their kids to maintain control. If you did something that surpassed the inheritance to a point that you wouldn't rely on it... I'm sure they'd resort to something else.
2007-01-17 15:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jarrad L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are talking about your MOTHER, not the maid, and maybe if you show her some respect she will then show the same to you.... I don't want you to get the wrong idea, but please reread your question, you really berate your mom and yes, she may be as nasty as you make her to be, but you still have a father, don't you? because you do say parents and not parent, so how does your father feel about this situation? Maybe in your best interest and your moms, and I can picture her dangling the money over your head like a popsicle to a child, you should talk to your dad. Not about how your mom is acting, but if you do, in fact, have an inheritance already? I say this because if your parents are wealthy, they would have already made a trust fund for you because of the tax laws it would be in their financial best interest to have done so already. So you may be able to bypass your mother's threats by talking directly to your dad---- but do not do so while in the house with your mom around, or anyone else for that matter- make it private between you and your dad, and if he asks why, look right into his eyes and tell him how your mom has been acting toward you and what she has been saying- he will see the cruelty in it. Good luck to you..... and if by some really bad luck on your part that your dad agrees with your mom, you have two choices:
1. Wear ear plugs when you are around her and just nod your head without reason.
2. Move out and make your own fortune.
2007-01-18 00:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blow off the inheritance. Its her money, dont let her bait you. If you are so greedy that you cant let it go, then you have room for growth.
Your mom is trying to get you to pursue her. I think she might (in some dysfunctional way) want to feel loved, and is using the inheritance as bait.
I would sit down and say that to her, then tell her that if anyone responds to a game like that its proof that they love the money more than the person, and that her playing the game makes me not want to be around her, and can we agree that Im not in the will and get on with having a living healthy human relationship. You might do well to do likewise, but with more tact.
2007-01-17 23:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her what it means to be a "grown-up" and live your own life. She is patheticly still trying to control you as when you were a little child. Time to think and answer her as the adult you are and stop taking on a child's role.
When she starts to behave this way cut the conversation or visit short and politely tell her you must leave or end the call for now. And then do it! Even if she doesn't change, you will.
2007-01-18 00:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you are financially independent without that inheritance. If not, I would suggest doing everything you can to become financially independent.
Let her know how you feel when she becomes toxic. It might improve your relationship.
You could just avoid her as much as possible too.
2007-01-18 00:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by MsAdventure 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control Control Control..that what is all amounts to....do some thinking and decide if you really need the stress and the inheritance....what if you just start to not react???? No reactions to her snide and cruel responses...she will back off and change tactics...decide if you need it....if not walk away from the abuse and stress....
2007-01-18 00:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by Karen F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you support yourself now don't you? Live your life and plan for your future as if you expect no inheritance. Hopefully Mom will soften up before she croaks, but she won't be able to control you, emotionally or otherwise.
2007-01-17 23:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't count on an inheritance, and do my own thing to live a happy life.
2007-01-18 00:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want someone controlling you if not forget about the money and live your life who knows she might out live you then what still no inheritance besides if she truelly want you to have it she give it to you anyway
2007-01-18 00:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this will be hard. If you value your happiness, then you will tell her this. " I don't want your money. Don't ever talk about it again." Sometimes these sorts of family members must be written off to protect your health. Be brave!
2007-01-18 01:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Big Mouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋