My mom is the meanest person. she gets mad at everything! i lost total respect for her. she lies, is two faced, shes fake, closed minded. she"ll hear something and take it the wrong way and change what i said. she is too close with her side of the family and she tells them EVERYTHING WE DO! she doesnt work, and whenever she gets mad she just LEAVES to her family for a couple days and doesnt answer her phone! shes call me every bad name u can ever think of and she acts like that with my older brother too! its a whole different story with my 7 year old brother though, shes like in love with him and tells him bad things like " u have to love your mother more than ur dad '' and she gets jealous of my dad because my older brother and i get along with so well him so well, we talk to him about everything. and my mom says that we're closer to him because he " buys our love" how Ridiculous is that!? i just cannot stand her. i got in a fight with her and now i want NOTHING TO DO WITH HER EVER!
2007-01-17 15:44:03 · 11 answers · asked by N 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, not my exact situation, but close.
PS I got to be out of hand as a mom, but I stopped it when my boy was real young. Six years later, I found I had a horrible hormonal disease.
She needs to get checke dout for bi-polar disorder, hormoal problems, wahtever.
And since she probably won't jsut because you asked her to, you need ot get your dad to sek help for ALL of you.
If she doesn't join up, that's a sad reality. But the rest of you have to bond and stay bound!
All the best to you.
And I'm trying to learn forgiveness and compassion, too. Only when you fix things, will this happen.
Doesn't mean you ever have to go back, once you're gone.
2007-01-17 15:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry things are difficult between you and your mom. She has no right to treat you poorly, and I know it can be scary and confusing to see a parent lose control of their emotions.
I want you, however, to consider her side of things for just a moment. Giving up your life to care for your family is extremely difficult and stressful. You never get a break or time to yourself. You are always on call, always on duty. You complain that she talks to her family to much- honey- that's probably her only outlet. She needs to get it off her chest and release some of the stress somehow. I talk to my sister all the time- she's my only real confidante. I don't know what I would do without that release. I know this sounds crazy, but maybe if you try to be more understanding of your mother, she'll be more understanding towards you. It's worth a try.
Remember, moms are people, too, and no one is perfect.
2007-01-17 15:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Elaine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I'm really sorry that you feel the way you do right now. My roommate goes through the same thing with her mother. Her mother leaves for like months at a time not telling anyone where she's going or ever calling. She's never helped my roommate out with anything in her life but my roommate still loves her because you know what? It's her mom. Sadly there are a lot of mom's like yours that just need to learn and..grow up. Don't say that you don't want anything to do with her because you're going to regret it if anything happens to her because deep down inside you're always going to love her and call her mom. Sorry things are the way they are just live with it and live your life.
God Bless.
2007-01-17 15:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by cavigirl17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really childish for your mother to act this way, but it sounds as if she may be jealous of the relationship that you and your brother have with your father and it hurts her to see it like that so she is venting out to her family where she knows that she can get the most sympathy and all the "You shouldn't have to go through this" all the things that she wants to hear so she doesn't feel as bad as she really is. Have you heard the saying Misery loves company? Your mom is miserable in her own life so she opts to make everyone else just as miserable.
2007-01-21 06:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your age, but just hang in there and do the best you can until you are old enough to move out on your own. That means you'll have to mature faster than average and you'll have to learn all you can about responsibility. Tell your dad to teach you all he can about finances, saving money, managing money, etc., so when the time comes, you can move on.
Teenage years are very hard, especially when there are many conflicts in the relationship you have with your mom. I wish you the best.
2007-01-17 15:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent myself, I am very sorry to hear that you and your mom don't get along. my suggestion is just to wait it out until you are finacally stable enough to move on with your life.
Good luck Hun with your future endeavors.
2007-01-17 15:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i'm sorry, if they are divorced you should go live with him, if your over 12 you are allowed to move in with him, no matter what the custody papers say, and when you go back to court tell the judge why you don't want to live with her and why.
2007-01-17 15:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the time comes leave home
2007-01-17 16:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heard of family counseling?
2007-01-17 15:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kayla I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can leave soon.
2007-01-17 15:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋