Someone tell me what the hell is wrong!? How can she learn to take responsibility?

Question

Why is she getting away with it? I'm tired of this?
Pops passed away a few years ago and mom bought a new house.Mom, my grand mother(who is bedrideen and blind),me, my brother and my sister in law live in the same house.Mom allowed me to move in the meantime until i find myself an apartment since im new in the area.Cant wait to move out!!! My sister in law fakes alot,she prenteds to faint, be weak, be very sick.We took her to the hospital numerous times & doctors said she had nothing. But she keeps faking it. She also doesn't want to help out around the house. All we ask his that she cleans the kitchen and dishes. She rarely does it. She claims to do all the work, when in reality i am. I take care of mom, granny( wash and change her and feed her). I cook souper for mom, granny and I. I clean half of the house.The top part were we are.I take out the garbage,look after mom since she has health problem and cant do much work with her knees and back probls. Why is my sister in law getting

Long time married folks, please give advice!!!

We are all sick of it. Plus to make it worst she always talks behind evberyone 's back and Lies a lot. I'm trying not to snap at her and try to remain cool , calm and collected.

have asked her to help out, but she never does a thing. She doesnt even want to help out with making meals ..yet she eats more than all of us in this house! Whenever i complain about the siutuation she replies i didnt ask her for her help. She constantly plays the victim and im annoyed!

Answer 1

I will assume that everyone is seeing her for what she really is and is as sick of her faking as you are. TALK TO YOUR BROTHER- he is responsible for his wife's actions. Tell him that if she doesn't want to chip in around the house, that's fine with you, but that HE (your brother) should HIRE someone to do her share of the chores. Case closed. Or give your brother the option of paying YOU since she sits on her fass all day long and you can hire someone to help around the house--- have this discussion OUTSIDE OF THE HOUSE, preferably out in the woods so you two can scream it out and your mom and grandmother will not be disturbed by it--- although I am sure it is probably irking them as much as it is you... oh by the way, you can give your brother the option to MOVE OUT WITH HIS LAZY BRIDE and that will be TWO less people you will have to take care of.

Thank you for being a caring son and grandson, you are doing the right thing for your family, your brother is another story.

Answer 2

If everyone is as fed up with her as you are then I think you should call a family meeting to get everyone in the house to say something about things that are going on in the house. The truth hurts if she can't take it then she can leave and be lazy in her own domain. You are doing a good job of taking care of your mom and grandmother you shouldn't have to take care of your royal laziness also.

Good Luck and I hope everything comes out alright for you

Answer 3

If she won't abide by your rules, she has to get out. She is a moocher and needs to learn to provide for herself. Just tell her to get a job and pay rent, take care of the house, or leave! Give her no other choice.

Answer 4

sound like she is lazy.....now if you doing most of the work and helping so much with mom and granny,who will take care of them when you move out?

Answer 5

does everyone else in the family share the same feelings as u? if so then i think you guys should confront her. tell her to get her own house, contribute somehow, financially or something else or she's out.