my grandfather passed way 2day.idk how to help my dad. i was never closee to my grandfather, but i saw him every summer and he careed about me alot and it pains me that my dads in mexico and i can help him cope with this. he comes back in a feew days, wat do i do to help him. this is the first time someone in his family has passed away.
2007-01-17 15:25:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm so sorry for your loss and it is so nice of you to be such a loving and caring son. Your father is blessed to have you!
When your dad returns, JUST BE THERE FOR HIM! that is all you have to do. When he walks in the door just hug him and tell him how sorry you are that he lost his father and that you couldn't imagine living without him in your life. Then just try to be "around" for him. I don't know what activities you two do together, but hang around the house more when your dad is home and if you see he is not returning to his " normal activities", be there to help him move on, meaning, if he's home say 3 weeks and he doesn't want to go out of the house and do whatever outside the home activities that he does, you ask HIM to go with you--- this way you can keep your dad from slumping into a depression, which is very common and normal after a major death in the family. You are a caring person-- I know you will know how to console your dad.....God bless...............
2007-01-17 15:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my dad died... I thought I would too (at least, I wanted to). I was beyond devastated... but because of my 2 little boys (at the time, is now 3).. kept me so busy.. that I had to let my life go on. My advice would be to talk when he needs to talk... but try to keep him busy... mind off of everything. If you have to talk.... ask him about funny things that happened.. that helps too.
2007-01-17 16:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by igiveall2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a magical brew from the Amazon that will solve his problems. It will allow him to understand death and be at ease with the passing of his father. The brew is called Ayahuasca. Honestly, it will work but it is an intense journy into your own conscieness.
2007-01-17 15:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just being there will be the most important thing. Let him grieve. It might be unusual to see you dad cry. Some people checkout and emotionally run away when grief comes to town. Just be there.
2007-01-17 15:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Suicide is between the most irritating deaths for those left in the back of. Questions abound on your ideas, and ideas of "shoulda, woulda, coulda" harass you day and evening, although you've performed no longer something to provide up this. on the prompt, you're interior the throes of grief. Your father in basic terms surpassed 2 days in the past, and which could no longer time adequate to even procedure his lack of life. Time will be your chum, and time is what's going to turn your open wounds right into a scar. you'll by no ability heal thoroughly, yet keep in mind that the scar is there that you'll imagine about your father with a grin for the cases you probably did spend jointly. Grieve the shortcoming of your father. it truly is healthful. Cry because you gained't listen his voice, or see his smile, yet keep in mind that you shall see him on your aims, and then back sometime. do no longer concentration on the way he died.... concentration on the loss and that you'll bypass over him. come to a decision the way you'll honor him such as your existence, and bypass in that direction. Have images of him round. talk about the coolest cases.... chuckle about those cases. save him on your conversations such as your toddlers, the cases that they undergo in ideas, and talk about them and him. even regardless of the reality that he can no longer be with you bodily, he can keep on with you by ability of your ideas of him, and your ability to reflect lower back and smile. He would not desire you to be unhappy... he might want to desire so that you may stay a contented existence. keep in mind that his discomfort became more effective than he might want to undergo, and for some, this way feels like the in common words answer. those who attempt this do no longer imagine about how their determination will give some concept to those that stay. keep in mind that you may want to correctly be solid, and keep in mind that this became his determination. do no longer fall sufferer on your grief.... enable it, cry, undergo in ideas, then, %. your self up and bypass stay a existence that can make your father proud.
2016-10-15 09:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by silvi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overtime, it will go away, same with my dad's parents, both died. Its a very durable scar that eventually becomes less painfull. How you can help him is to spend time with him, it works.
2007-01-17 15:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be there for him,it ain much you can say right now,but let him know how much you love him,and try to spend alot of time with ya dad,sorry about your loss.
2007-01-17 15:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by hanagal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
must people cope in different ways. just let him know you love him and you are here for him it will take time huge him comfort him .that's all you can do.
2007-01-17 15:35:56 · answer #8 · answered by foxie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leslie,
the best thing you can do is show your love and concern. Let your dad know how sorry you are.
2007-01-17 17:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him we will all die and theres no use in crying about it. Its the law of life. Everything must come to an end. We will all meet our makers soon enough.
2007-01-17 15:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋