When will my one year old understand "no"?

Question

He does the same thing over and over again even when I constantly tell him not too. Is he being defient or will he learn that later? Also whats the best way to disipline him, what has worked for you?

Answer 1

My 10 month old knows what no means. But that means if he is about to do something and I say NO then he will stop. For about 5 seconds. Sometimes he will even shake his head no when he is about to do something bad but he lacks the self-control stop himself. So it isn't a question of understanding you, it is a question of being able to remember the rules and prevent themselves from breaking them. This doesn't really develop until age 2 to 3.

As for discipline, your job as a parent is to PREVENT your child from misbehaving. You need to redirect, supervise and prevent bad behaviours. When your son misbehaves it is YOU who have failed. Much later kids can be held accountable for their actions. But really at one year old he doesn't have the ability to control himself.

Answer 2

one is a hard age because you look at them like the should know but the cold hard truth is that they are still very thick headed. You can tell a one year old no 1000 times for the same thing and they will look at you like you have 2 heads and speak some foreign language. You just have to wait... as for disipline, at most a smack on the hand. they just don't understand right now you'll probably feel bad for any disipline you dole out right now so spare yourself those feelings and wait till you can get results.

Answer 3

He'llunderstand it when he's about 40. Toddlers/babies do not think like adults. The word "no" is absolutely nothing to a small child, they don't have a dictionary inside their heads to define what it is we tell them. They do the same things over and over even though we as parents tell them over and over not to because their attention span and their view of time are not like our's. They don't remember 10 minutes ago let alone the day before. So you have to tell them again. And again. and again...it's called CONSISTENCY. After awhile by being consistent what we tell them takes hold. I used the "behavior/reward" form of discipline. When my daughter behaved she earned privlidges like watching a bit of television or videos, etc. When she didn't behave she didn't get privelidges. When she acted up in public I removed her from the situation and she was not able to go back until she could convince me she could behave...it took her 6 months to do so. My daughter was always a very social baby/toddler and enjoyed going to the mall and just "people watch". She stopped napping after her first birthday and for her going to the mall just to walk around WAS her "nap". So for her it was "torture" for her to have to stay behind when I went to the mall. As she got older we didn't have many problems with her misbehaving, yes she tried to test the rules but always found they were still being inforced and that she didn't get things just because she "wanted" them. There was never a television, computer, phone, stereo in her bedroom She didn't have a cellphone until she was able to pay for her own. The computer was in the dining room of our apartment where I could keep an eye on her activities and her use of it was limited to her school work and a few minutes emailing, and messing personal friends. I never had the need for a "net nanny" or blocking program, and our internet connection was password protected and I changed the password frequently. She finally got her own computer when she was 17 years old and was able to pay for her own laptop. I never handed out an "allowance" because I don't believe a child should be paid to live under my roof, this is a family and as a family EVERYONE works together for the family and no one needs to be paid to do it. I don't beleive children have the right to be spoiled rotten brats, children have the right to a roof over their heads, food in their stomachs, clothes on their backs and a loving supportive family. All the rest is/are privelidges.

Answer 4

My 16 mon old Granddaughter is that way too!! She KNOWS what NO means.We use time out when she repeats the behavior we are trying to discourage. We make her set still in the naughty spot for 2-3 minutes with no toys then we call her to us and tell her we love her but she has to understand that she cant do what ever it is we say NO to her about.This works pretty well for us. Of course she always finds something new everyday thats added to the NO list so be consistant.

Answer 5

Your daughter/son will learn when the time is right. if he/she is doing something wrong simply said "no" they cant just figure out what no is right from the start, They'll relize when they do something bad you say no. I had the same thing happen with my daughter, only she picked up on it around the age three. Two is a fantastic age! Not only is it fun for you but ur little dumpling is growing up. to a todler. Soon a preteen. In in time he/she will become a teen! Wow.. scary thoughts even for me. Anyways back on track!, Give it time and keep doing what you're doing. They'll learn in time. GOODLUCK

Answer 6

Your one year old will know what the word "no" is way before he understands what it means to be defiant. I don't know if it is a good idea to discipline a one year. If you don't want him to do something, say touch something, then perhaps you should just take whatever it is away from him. I wouldn't expect to have a logical debate with a one year about most issues..

Answer 7

Somewhere around 72 hours after he moves out of your house and goes out on his own--- something about the Real World that teaches it to you like double quick (but maybe a little late)

Answer 8

my daughter 9 months understood no at 8 months but i think she may have seen me say no to the dog and he will always stop and sit so when i said no to her she stops and looks at me and doesn't do it again.i would suggest saying no and removing the object or baby from it and repeat this every time even if they have a cry cause your st oping them it won't take long to sink in xx

p.s forgot to put change of tone is important firm and authoritative works best xx

Answer 9

He understands no, he is just being defiant and testing his limits. I do time out for my daughter, she is two, I have a cooking timer and set it for her age. she understands she messed up when she is sitting in the corner by herself and straightens up immediately. Try it and see if it works!

Answer 10

Consistency Consistency. Same thing with discipline.