We've been together 11 months. It seems like my girlfriend is embarrassed to tell certain people that I'm her boyfriend. Around certain people, she won't even display public affection.
Examples: 1. We went out with friends of her parents. She feels uncomfortable when I simply just put my arm around her ...
2. A 12 year old kid asked her "Is he like your boyfriend?" And she replied "Nooooooo!"
This all happened this past weekend.
I'm just a bit bothered by it ... Why do you think she's embarrassed or acts this way? I asked her but can't get a direct answer and said she'll change. We love each other very much.
2007-01-17 14:59:48 · 11 answers · asked by Bobby_Bomberman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shes probably just a very shy person.
2007-01-17 15:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by CH CH CH CHIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through this and I really don't like to say it, but I think you need to start looking for another girlfriend. Sounds like this relationship has run its course.
With regard to your first question: she probably saw the other couple as an extension of her parents and knew they wouldn't approve of that kind of PDA (public display of affection). As a parent myself I'd see it as you staking your claim to her. A lot depends on how you had your arm around her--the shoulders?the waist?all over her like a throw rug? It doesn't display good judgment or respect for her on your part.
Question 2: You don't say how old the two of you are, but her response could simply mean she was responding like any other young kid would when asked that--fear of ridicule, being teased, etc.
If you can't get a direct answer from her, it's because she's feeling ambivalent about you and your relationship. Her feelings for you may have changed and she doesn't know whether she still cares the same way or she's debating on how to break up without hurting you too much. She's probably doing a lot of talking with her friends on this subject.
She shouldn't have to change. Why are you pushing her to acknowledge your relationship? Either you're secure with it after 11 months or you're not. Are you starting to feel panicky because you sense her withdrawing and you're not ready for things to end?
There's an old hackneyed phrase that says "give her space". Maybe it's trite, dumb, sounds old-fashioned, whatever, but there is still a kernel of truth in it. If the love is there, it's going to stay regardless of whether you're together all the time or taking a breather. Hate to say it, but it sounds like you love her more than she loves you and you're trying to make her feel differently.
Whatever happens, good luck. Whether you stay in this relationship or have more ahead of you, take this advice: don't be too possessive. Total turn-off.
2007-01-17 15:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by goldie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why she would feel uncomfortable with your putting your arm around her in that type of situation. I'm not very comfortable with Public Displays of Affection myself. And no matter how much I like a guy, or how long we have dated, I'm still uncomfortable with him even so much as trying to hold my hand in front of my parents or any of their friends. I HAVE NO IDEA WHY! Most likely it's because we never talked about sex in my house growing up, and my parents aren't touchy feely with each other around us....
As for the comment by the 12 year old kid...I'm not sure exactly why she would do that. My only thought is that she was beng sarcastic and you just didn't catch it.
Either way I wouldn't worry about these things! As long as you are still happy in your relationship, and she is showing you affection (in general) , then what she tells a 12year old kid, really doesn't matter!
I'm sure she's not embarrassed of you! She probably just feels awkward in situations like the two of you were in last weekend, and that's all.
2007-01-18 20:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She said she'll change? I know change is good bad this doesn't make sense. I think she making ir clear that she may not want to have a bf. So unless u enjoy having ur feelings hurt u might should end it with her. It's rude that she acts the way she does. So maybe u should make it easier for ur self and just tell her that u and she should just end it and move on to other people. U should move on to a girl who's not embarrassed by u, who will allow u to put ur arms around her in publis and around her family, who will say " YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS=-)" when asked if ur her boyfriend.
If she loves u then she wouldn't have a problem showing it
2007-01-17 15:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I can think of is that you might dress "funny". That is you stand out in a crowd. Is that it? If not, are there certain people she's not into PDA with? Her family. Ex's ... etc. Seems kind of strange. Have a talk with her. Tell her how you feel. She she can't come up with a logical answer and the only reason she's keeping you around is for a steady piece of ***, then dump her.
2007-01-17 15:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that got here about...yet some distance previous "embarrassing" him, you may evaluate breaking apart with him. the way he dealt with you today (first causing you to fall on your face and giggling at you, then refusing to ask for forgiveness, and finally, to operate insult to harm, calling you a "crybaby") shows he wouldn't have any appreciate for you. He would not deserve you interior the first position.
2016-10-15 09:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by silvi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh darlin... This isnt very good at all......
I have learnt from experience to TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!!!...Sorry but if you feel as though she is ashamed or imbarressed of you.. She is.....
This is Harsh but the truth..
And you say you have been together 4 11 months.. Sorry buddy, it looks like she isnt very committed and in fact is just using you till someone better comes along....
Cut her out of your life, Or at the very Least give her an Ultimatum!!
Good Luck - You deserve Better!!
2007-01-17 15:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Pink Puppy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok...well tell her you are bothered and you want to take a break...just take about a one to two week break and maybe while you are gone she will miss you so much she wont stop showing public affection!
Or just tell her...i didn't want it to come to this but if you are embarrassed by me then dump me!
Or dump her!
2007-01-17 15:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by Dance♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude u better break off with her becz from wht I c,this gurl is not gonna change..Y hurt urself?If u cannot break off with her, thn force to tell reason y she acting like that?
2007-01-17 15:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by Gurlie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She may not want to draw unwanted attention to your relationship with her. If this is really hurting you then you should tell her how you feel. She may not know how much she is really hurting you.
2007-01-17 15:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by Melinda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋