how i graduated from college and now its time to move out my parents house?

Question

i am 22 female, scared as hell, but really want to do it
i dont have a roommate or anyone in mind that i want to live with
i got a job 45K annually and i am hoping it will be enough
but the problem is - i am scared as hell and never learned how to cook, clean and do the laundry on my own
all i saw - books
my parents are not forcing me to get out , but i feel its time
any ideas on where and how to start????
and how to make it less painfull?????
i am scared to be honest

Answer 1

With 45K/year and no obligations you can afford to get a maid one day a week. But with 5 points in your account, I think you're lying.

Answer 2

Hey Monica...I went to boarding school when I was 14..so I have been on my own for a long time. I would say the best advice I can give you is get a place around the area your parents live. You make good money, so that should not be a problem. Maybe your mom can give you some pointers in terms of cooking and stuff. Don't be scared, moving out is liberating!! You will love having your own space...there is nothing like it! After all, you are an adult with a job for heaven's sake! Good luck!

Answer 3

MOVE OUT MOVE OUT MOVE OUT!
I had a problem similar to yours, but with driving. I was afraid to drive. Afraid of wrecks, insurence, etc. But the more I stressed over it and the longer I put it off, the harder it was to do.
You make enough money to get a nice one or two bedroom apartment, with or without a roomate. Why don't you start by going around to apartment complexes, and getting tours and information about apartments. There are some that are really nice. If you still feel worried about moving into a place alone, start interviewing potential roomates.
I am sure your parents will be more than happy to show you how to do your laundry at a laundromat, or even let you bring your laundry home every week to do. Cooking is a breeze now, there are microwave dinners and takeout, you don't really need to slave over a stove for hours. If you want to learn to cook, there are cookbooks that specalize in recepies with five ingreadents or less, so they are easy to make.
Go ahead and move out now, I know from experience that the longer you wait the scarier it will be. Sometimes you just have to jump in feet first. And I am sure once you are out of your parent's place, you will love your new found freedom!
Best of luck!

Answer 4

I don't know where you live, but that sounds like decent money - enough to make it where I live. So, being scared is okay. Why don't you ask your mom about the things you never learned. It's never too late and might be fun. You will learn things as you go, too. Believe me... people want to help - just don't be afraid to ask in the laundry room, etc. I think you are more afraid of being on your own? That is so normal. Start asking people you know if they know people that might need a roomie. Roommates make it easier. Don't do an ad - unless you are in a small town. That never works the way you want it to. Good luck, you will do fine!

Answer 5

If you are scared to move out and do not believe you are ready, then don't. Sounds like your parents don't;t mind having you around, and you are not bothered by living in their home. Moving out is a big step and if you are not ready or do not have the financial backing do not do it.

Stay at home for as long as you need to (within limit, don't be 30 and living at home). Save up the money you would be spending on rent, and put it in the bank. This way, when you are ready, you might have the financial backing to buy a place of your own, instead of renting. Renting is a waste of money, and you get nothing in return for what you pay.

As for the laundry and cooking issues; just ask your parents to step back a bit and stop having them do those things for you. That way you can learn, and make mistakes and ask questions in the comfort of your own home.

I hate when people believe that you should move out of your parents house when you graduate college. That is so stupid. Today's society is so expensive and college kids have thousands of dollars in loans to pay back. They are better off living at home for a few years, working and saving. They will be ahead of the game financial this way.

Answer 6

Get a nice townhouse close to work with a 1-year lease. Get some good used furniture out of the classifieds, and a decent set of corelle kitchenware and some pots and pans at walmart. Decorate as desired, with an emphasis on simplicity.
DON'T spend a lot of money on anything right now, and DO NOT GET INTO DEBT for anything until you have been on the job for at least 6 months.
By the time your lease is coming up for renewal, you will know more what you want to do.
Remember, in the multitude of counselors there is safety, so don't be afraid to ask for advise or help--and don't be afraid to throw it all out if it's not right for YOU.
Congratulations, and best of luck.

Answer 7

well depends where you live, if the life is expensive there or not. But I think your salary is good enough now.
I don't suggest you to find a roommate. Don't be so scared, you graduated, found a job. This is really great.
Well ask somebody else how to cook, or find a good place to eat with... friends. You can learn to cook simple things for beginning. Ask your parents, friends, ask Yahoo Answers. It's what I do. Not everybody has time for cooking but it can be delightful. Am I making sense?

Answer 8

You are doing great! Awesome salary for a young woman. You can do this!! There isn't one of the problems : cleaning, cooking, laundry, that you cannot manage well. Just remember that if you use something, put it back. If you drop it pick it up, etc. Learn one or two nice simple meals for special and make the other meals simple stuff. I congratulate you. Enjoy your achievements! Eat that elephant one bite at a time.

Answer 9

It's time, move out.... 45K! What do you do? I'm in the wrong field .. I started out making half that amount when I was straight out of college not that long ago.

Be proud of yourself, your new job, and things will come naturally.

Some advice ... don't run to your parents every time something may go wrong in your new place, it turns into too much drama... ask friends that live on their own already for help.

Answer 10

You graduated from College, but so did I and your grammar in written English is "Holy Molly", but your question will be answered.

Your a female of precarious nature. Leaving home is part of life. Nascent direction is all part of growing up.

Scared?.......It's like a poignant child that is lost in the way of right, but I bet your good in other areas that didn't require so much knowledge and to a degree of emotional content.
Be wise, think straight and shoot for the Stars I say.