I used to go to this church in which I had some serious problems. I was lied about, lied to, and mocked. I no longer go there. I stayed there probably longer than I should have because it actually caused me more harm the longer I stayed. But I didn't want to give up hope. I still haven't given up hope and believe it or not, I actually have more peace of mind by staying away from there. But even though I chose to stay away I figured that I would at least get as much as a phone call every now and then from someone in the church. I got nothing! And when they see me out in public; they just look at me like "youre a backslinding fool" and never have much to say. That does nothing but discourage me even more not to attend their church. I thought the idea was about winning souls to the Lord? It makes absolutely no sense to invite someone to your church and then turn around and never speak to them or make any effort to contact them!
2007-01-17 14:49:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yeah! I chose to leave the church! And I don't regret that decision! It was the only thing I could do! And how do you unknowingly cause someone to leave the church? I don't buy that! EVERYONE!!! And I do mean Everyone has control over their actions! they know when they do evil! It could be that they knew they where wrong and choose to not face me because they know it was wrong! But thats just a theory. The most likely scenario is: THEY SIMPLY DON'T CARE!! As in no conscience.
2007-01-17 15:27:42 · update #1
And I still have feelings for The Lord. My heart will not let go of him even though I have not been such a good saint.
2007-01-17 15:31:09 · update #2
I think if people truly care about you they will show it! If someone says "I love and appreciate you" and then 5 minutes late stab you in the back; They are a LIAR! Plain and simple.
2007-01-18 04:44:24 · update #3
exactly...I believe the church has forgot how to love those in their own house....they tend to cling to those who are popular or rich or have some talent like singing...because all eyes are on them then....I too recently left my church due to some hard times in my life...and I was reaching out for some help from the leadership and they shunned me...I guess it was too much of a bother for them......and I was one who was in a leadership role .....have went there 10 years and when I left I got not one phone call...no even wanted to know what was up or if I was ok.....and when I see those that are still members on the street or in a shop they look at me and turn away.....how un loving and uncaring is that...don't think Jesus is pleased with that attitude.....if we cant love those in our own church and disciple them and stick with them through the ups and downs in their lives then how are we to handle the unsaved when they come in through the doors.....they wont stay and they don't stay....because we must have sincere hearts to love those who ar around us and without that we are not able to share Christ in His light....it would then be mixed with us and that isn't good.....but as you say it did more damage to me to stay then to leave ...I am much better now that I am away from it.....it took some time for me to heal from the hurt but I am finally through it and now I pray they can find a way to reach out to all around them.....because so much is missing in the church today.....I really don't see much of Jesus in it anymore.
2007-01-17 15:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by shiningon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you chose to leave? right?
then you broke ties to the church, when you leave a church they are under the impression that you wish to be left alone. before you decided to quit, you should have talked to the pastor and told him the problem.
I know that when people decide to quit our church I have a hard time coming up to talk to them when out in public, not because I think I am better than they are, but because I fear that I was (unknowingly) a part of the reason they left .
Edit:
we are all guilty of hurting someone in our lives without knowing it.. saying something and the person thinks it's an insult when it wasn't intended that way. it happens. if you are happy with your decision to leave, then move on and don't dwell on the past. the Bible warns us about living in the past. it also says "how can you love me whom you have not seen and hate your brother whom you have seen?" I don't know your situation, but I do know that it henders your prayer life and your service to God when you hold a grudge against anyone. ask God to help you forgive and move on. forgivness heals your heart not theirs.. letting go is sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself. I am not defending the church, I don't even know the church you are speaking of, but I do know what the Bible tells us concerning the issues that you describe. I wish you much happiness in your future church. I know how hard it is to move on when you are hurt so deeply by people you thought were your friends and church family. God Bless you.
2007-01-17 15:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like there has been some kind of bad feeling between some people of the Church and yourself. I would just move on to another Church where you find friendship and acceptance. Don't let this spoil your relationship with Jesus, people can be petty and foolish, Jesus is a constant source of help to us. God Bless.
2007-01-17 14:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by angel 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
THEY are the ones we should feel sorry for. They are full of themselves and they are deceived.
God is perfect, Jesus is perfect, but Their followers, are not perfect. Negativity and poor attitudes are all too prevalent today.
I have been through some of the same things that you have endured. I finally decided that I was not going to let others stand between me and God. I affiliated myself with a group of positive people who love the Lord and each other. I hope that you will be able to do the same. God Bless You.
2007-01-17 14:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry. They were evil, just like a lot of Christians. Sometimes you have to leave the church and organized religion to find true peace. Good luck.
2007-01-17 14:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Gwen 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You seem to know what they think of you and why.
Did you call the pastor for an appointment to come in and talk?
Matthew 18 tells us that if someone offends you, you are to go to that person and tell them their fault.
Matthew 5 tells us that if you remember that someone has something against you, you are to go and be reconciled to that person before coming to worship.
2007-01-17 14:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Bob L 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some do and some don't. Some churches
can't find their former members and I'm afraid
to admit that some of us don't really try. And
I'm ashamed. For myself that is..
2007-01-17 15:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't let what you think are their judgmental stares upset you. Find another road; another way; another church. They do not sound very spiritual anyway. Close that chapter in your life.
2007-01-17 14:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by * 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
.Just pray for them,it may be hard to do that,but the bible say pray for them that do you wrong,i had to do it.It hurt,but the bible also say vengeance is mines said the lord,and he will pay every man according
2007-01-17 14:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by hanagal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a real church. I have no idea where you were, but that's disgusting.
2007-01-17 14:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋