Help how can i get my boyfriend to call me more! He is a total workaholic and i hate it cause sometimes i wish he would just quit or get fired (i know that sounds kind of selfish for me to think that way) But i really miss talking to him for hours on the phone.And im the one that constantly call,text and email him if i didnt i dont know if we would even talk.What should i do?
2007-01-17 14:46:06 · 18 answers · asked by lexydangle08 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men work hard because they know that they must support the family. If he really cares about you, then he thinks he is working hard for you. I know it is hard for you, but women always have this dilemma. They get angry if we work too much, and get angry if we don't make enough money. You have to understand his situation and support him in whatever you you think you are able to. Remember what I said about a woman's dilemma. If you push him about this, you have about a 99% chance of losing him. He will see you as one of "those kind of women" and drop you faster than a hot potato. Think about what you want before you say anything to him. What you do next will make or break your future together.
2007-01-17 14:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I t appears that you are quite possibly scaring the heck out of him. You are setting him up to be the "be all and end all" of your life and maybe suffocating him. I know that when a guy is calling me constantly and testing me constantly it drives me crazy! I have a life too and I think your boyfriend may be reconsidering the relationship. I might be wrong but I think you should consider finding out why it is that you are making your life all about him. This is a recipe for disaster. From your question I would recommend you take some time to be free from boyfriends for a while and invest in yourself. Then when a guy comes along that you like you will be secure enough in yourself not to be too clingy, you will be less likely to get hurt and he will be more attracted to you because you are now a mystery instead of an emotional black hole. (I do not intend this to be mean, just honest)
2007-01-17 14:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by ninia1968 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to get some time alone, even if its at 2:30 in the morning when he gets home from work. let him know how you feel. mayb he's jsut under a lot of pressure from either work or other things. just let him know you miss him and hate that he isn't making a lot of time for you. tell him you just want a few e-mails a week and a 30 minute call every day whenever he can find time. if he can't do that, you may need to find a guy that will give you the attention you deserve
2007-01-17 14:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend. Us guys don't like clingy chicks, makes us want to find something easier that we don't have to try as hard at, not because we are lazy just because we need our free time to do cool stuff, to tell our girlfriends, to make both our lives easier. Get my drift? Oh an any guy who talks to his girlfriend on the phone for hours is A)totally lonely, B)in another state C)broke and doesn't have a car. Just because talking on the phone is not very personal and us guys like to talk for hours in person but on the phone we'd rather be watching the game. Oh and if you don't know if he'd ever talk to you if you didn't talk to him....... it's probably time to find someone who wants to talk to you and you'd know cares enough to be with you. Guessing is usually a bad sign.
2007-01-17 14:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by GuitarJammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say stop texting and calling and see if he even notices. It sounds like he's only keeping you around because you just keep popping up. If he really wants you, he will miss your calls and your texts and make some effort to maintain your relationship. If he doesn't then he's selfish and not worth your time. So dump him and tell him you hope his job keeps him warm at night.
2007-01-17 14:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lady G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lexy listen if he doesn't have time for you then why are you wasting YOUR time on him. Obviously he cares more about other things than to call you. My brother is a workaholic but he still finds time to call his fiance during his break just even for a minute or two to tell her he loves her and to see how her day is going. My opinion and it is mine move on and find someone who wants to be with you and not so much himself. Good Luck Sweety.
2007-01-17 14:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by crestland_chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a keeper.
Look around and see how many young men are total slackers and aren't really interested in getting ahead.
Talk to him about his plans for the future. If you're part of them then he's doing this for both of you.
2007-01-17 14:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and let the poor guy work! Would you rather have a boyfriend who was a lazy *** just so you could feel more secure by talking to him constantly?
2007-01-17 14:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can put up a test to see if he really likes you. Just 3 days don't text or call him. See if any reply from him.
2007-01-17 14:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you are smothering him. guys don't like clingy girls.
be more independent and you will have him eating out of the palms of your hands.
its also not attractive.
play it cool and just chill out. he'll call when he's ready
so don't call him for 2 days and see what happens
trust me you will live
2007-01-17 14:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by TROUBLE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋