When my husband's son is playing the PS2 and he is "in the zone," he starts speaking. He repeatedly says things like:
"Everybody knows the first one is the best" (referring to his mom, my hubby's ex wife)
"But she's bigger than me, she's bigger than me" (I am taller than his mom)
"She's so ugly, and she smells" (a salacious comment about me).
My husband has confronted his ex about bad-mouthing me in front of his children but, she just blamed it on her mom and relatives.
The thing is, I never speak ill of her, and especially around her kids. But the same respect is not shown toward me. Also, she must be speaking of me in a nasty way an awful lot for the kids to subconsciously repeat what they hear at home. I just need a little direction regarding how to deal with this.
2007-01-17 14:45:02 · 4 answers · asked by ?girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Cool comments, thanks a lot.
2007-01-17 15:04:40 · update #1
Whack his asss with a belt
2007-01-17 14:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those are vague comments that may be about the game and nothing to do with you at all. Although you know the ex does "bad mouth" you because your husband said so, you should not drag the kids into it by being paranoid about what they say. Just show you're better than the ex by ignoring what she says.
2007-01-17 23:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common for kids to feel hurt for a while due to the break up of their parents. They need time to grieve this out of their heart. The ex wife's comments may not be the reason for his resentment towards you, it is probably just because he hasn't accepted the fact of the divorce yet. To him, you are in the wrong place at the wrong time. Don't try to take his mothers place in his heart. Talk highly of her. Its just going to take some time. Imagine how you would feel if you suddenly found your dad with a different woman. Then you may know how he is feeling. Don't take it personal. Be there "for him", not "against him". Find a counselor who has experience in dealing with your situation. He/she can give you some good advise. Hope this helps.
2007-01-17 23:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore the comments being made it is obvious the ex is jealous of you and is talking smack around the kids, just don't stoop to her lvl. When the kids are over the fact that there dad is no longer with there mom and they warm up to you it will all end.
Good Luck
2007-01-21 14:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋