Guys, is it true that you like to stay "friends" or have contact with all of your ex-girlfriends? and you do this so that you these have girls on the side, in case of a lonely Friday night or is it to boost your ego?
And should a girl be flattered if her ex-bf wants to stay friends?
Why would you stay friends with an ex????
My ex and I never had sex cuz he knows I'm saving myself so why is he trying to hangout now?
2007-01-17 14:33:54 · 16 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
booty on the side, well, I never thought of it that way.
I like too keep intouch because I have made a good relationship with the girl and want to keep them close.
just cause your not dating dosent mean you can't be friends.
2007-01-17 14:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your first questions some guys do it for those reasons. I don't think the girl should be flattered because its not really too big of a deal. I would stay friends with my ex because my g/fs sometimes turn into my best friends too so I don't want to loose my g/f and my bestfriend at the same time. Maybe your ex just enjoys your company, and wants you in his life still. Don't automatically think its all about sex.
2007-01-17 14:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by 45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think parting company as a friend is pretty adult and mature. Harboring any hostility is kind of childish---you will cross paths and why would you not at least say hello? If you don't want to hang or be really close friends make it clear when the time is right for a nice chat. I have dated a lot and when it's over it's over---the lady is not going to die or explode or go to the moon---I see them in the mall and all over---we always chat and then move on. If you don't you will run out of people to talk to--then you'll have to move away to a new town.
2007-01-17 14:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got that backwards. It's women who keep men in reserve as possible sexual partners for when they are bored, lonely or angry at their current partner. You only think men do this because women do this. Men and women are different. VERY different. This is one of the ways we are different. If you aren't a sexual partner then we pretty much don't want you around. A man might look up an old girlfriend for sex, but he won't maintain a relationship with her unless they maintain a constant sexual relationship. If a man wants his ex around "as friends" he means AS FRIENDS. That's another way men and women are different. Unless engaging in a specific deception for some ulterior motive, men are amazingly straight forward. We mean what we say, most of the time.
2007-01-17 14:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just bored.. BUT some guys do like to stay friends.. I'm close friends with on of my ex's
2007-01-17 14:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he still wants to be your friend than he either has a new girl and wants to have a friend that is a girl that he trusts to probe about the opposite sex or he still has feelings for you. guys do not take rejection well at all TRUST me. most men do not like to be friends with their ex's cause it is a constant reminder of failure. if he is friends with all his ex's he might be a player.
2007-01-17 14:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by hime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do it in the hopes that maybe they will change their mind, or for a backup. There are no other reasons, except for a few rare occasions where they really are still friends.
Men got this concept from the ladies. How many times have you heard a woman say, "We can still be friends." Duh?! How stupid is that? What man or woman wants ro be 'just friends' with someone that they used to share their bed with?
2007-01-17 14:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we do that. No you should NOT feel flattered. Do you know how many girls have said they are "saving" themself that I have had sex with?? Well me either...but I think 4 or 5
2007-01-17 14:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't stay "friends" with an ex if you really aren't friends. it becomes too taxing.
and yes, be happy if your ex is still your friend.
maybe some guys do it that way, but most i know can't. it takes too much work to stay friends just to get some.
2007-01-17 14:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by Zachary H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he wants you in his life. He's hoping you'll "save yourself" for him. I've had many exes and I'm happy and proud to be friends with them all. I shared my life with them at some point and they all have a little spot in my heart, as I do in theirs.
2007-01-17 14:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by largerladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋